Marriage - How did you know he/she was the one?

[SportTees]

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My only advice is Don't rush-if they love you they will wait / trust your gut- You'll know if and when its right.

 

[SportTees]

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You shouldn't talk about being happy after a spouse dies if you have never experienced it. The second time is never the same if it was truly love the first time. Some people marry for the wrong reasons and later in life find someone that they love more sometimes after a spouse dies. There is allot to consider when someone becomes a widower

 

[mtnhomechick]

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My only advice is Don't rush-if they love you they will wait / trust your gut- You'll know if and when its right.

What she said.

 

[sugarbush]

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My only advice is Don't rush-if they love you they will wait / trust your gut- You'll know if and when its right.

I actually disagree with this. My wife and I married 6 months after we met, my best friend was with his girlfriend for 5 years before they got married. We have been married for 6 years, they filed for devorce after 6 months.
We lived together from our first date. they never lived together prior to marriage. They found out that even after 5 years together they could not live together.

My phylosophy is that you only live once; so Leap If it takes you 5 years to know that this is the person you want to marry than something is wrong.... I would have married my wife the night we met, but the family wanted the wedding and needed at least 6 months to plan....

 

[katiek]

Thanks everyone for sharing your stories! It's so great to hear about how other people fell in love!

 

[kelseygirl707]

I actually met my Now Husband online about 1 year 9 months ago. I absolutly hate talking on the phone or Instant messaging online, but for some reason it was different with him, we Instant messaged for over 3 hours the first day, then talked on the phone for a couple more, that lasted about 3 days, before I drove 1.5 hours to spend his 30 minute lunch break with him, from then on we couldn't stay apart, which sucked because we lived 2 hours away from each other, so on our days off we would come to see eachother, sometimes I would have to leave his house at 3am to get to work on time, LOL but it was all worth it we were engaged 6 months after meeting (On Christmas Eve), married 6 months after that and now we are coming up on 9 months married, and we couldn't be happier. Only advice I have, is trust your heart, it just knows! Also, we all know the Woman is always right, but do let him think he is once in a while, a happy male ego, goes a long way, LOL.

Our wedding day!

Do you think we could have been happier?

 

[AndreaGS]

My fiance and I are getting married in July. We will have been together three years by the time we get married. He proposed after a year and a half (though I knew it would happen beforehand, because I'd catch him saying to himself, "Will you marry me?" in his sleep or when he was taking out the garbage).

I knew pretty soon after we started dating that I would marry him. He keeps me grounded, is always supportive, and makes me feel like 1/2 of an awesome, unbreakable team. He's got my back and I've got his.

I won't say we never argue (I have a temper and so does he!), but we always make up and there's no one I'd rather be with.

I don't believe in love at first sight, but the moment I met him, I knew there was something there. A definite spark.

 

[Chicken Fruit]

I knew my husband was my husband when I saw him cross the street in front of my truck while he was delivering the mail and i slowed to let him cross. I knew at that moment that he was a good man, I knew he was 25, I knew he was honest, and I knew he was a good match. I dont know how I knew... I just did- I had been praying that the Lord would prepare me a perfect match for me since I had been about 8 years old.

We dated about 2 months before I knew he was the one, but I wasn't sure until I had prayed about it and gotten my own personal answer. At about 5 months into our relationship I knew I would marry him and stay with him come hell or high water. We got married 11 months after meeting each other.

We'll have been married 6 years this year.

Marriage is not easy, especially the first year or two. Unless you decide to make it through no matter what- you wont.

My best advice is to come together before God, and commit to loving each other before yourselves. Pray pray pray for your spouse, and if you want to see your spouse change, you'll have to be changed first. Thats just how it works.

 

[sugarbush]

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So how did you commence to meet him after you saw him cross the street?

Marriage is not easy, especially the first year or two. Unless you decide to make it through no matter what- you wont.

We moved over 1000 miles away from all of our family right after we got married....makes those first couple of years easier when you have nobody but each other. We still live over 500 miles from our nearest family. No body drops in for a surprise visit ever.​

 

[Whispering Winds]

My DH and I will be married 39 years this Nov., and we were/are high school sweethearts.

I first laid eyes on this man when I was 13 years old, and I knew from that instant on, no matter what, this was the one. He was the only boy I ever dated, all through HS, and he was the same . . .we raised five kids together, he has been a wonderful provider and gave us a wonderful life. I wish we had been more saving, but with such a large family that was sort of hard, with the stuff they needed and got into

He has been diabetic since he was 27 years old, that we knew of, and has had some serious issues off and on through the years, but still went to work and rarely complained . . .now, he has been disabled because of everything for the past 3 years and this, I can honestly say, been the biggest trial of our marriage. He was so mean and grouchy and verbally abusive, because he was heartbroken over having to leave a job he loved (electrician at a local power plant for 33 years) that the adjustment was terrible. We were use to be together, but we were also use to be apart because of his swing shift for 14 years and then a lot of overtime. We also started raising two grandchildren, one going back to her mom, but we kept the little boy and adopted him last year. . .he is 8 now, so we are starting over as parents and the school thing and all that goes with it again . . . but so far its been good. My advice to anyone thinking about getting married, be their friend first, and be able to talk to them about anything and everything, and make sure you can laugh together. Sex is wonderful, it will get you through a lot of lean years, but eventually it will become less important and the friendship and laughter will be first and foremost in keeping it together. I also think we need to really LISTEN to those vows, because too many people take a hike the first time there is something not working out . . .no two people will ever be able to be together every day without something causing a disagreement. Get over, move on, and NEVER EVER throw something the other person did way back when in their face if you are having a disagreement about something. . .that is water under the bridge and not to be brought up during something entirely unrelated. Keep God in the marriage, he can help get you through some pretty difficult times, either with each other or outside forces. . .always say Thank you, and do nice little things for each other. . .I would rather have a nice card that T. chose for me than any fancy gift out there . . . because what comes from the heart, stays in the heart. Gosh, didn't mean to get so carried away . . .but then again, do we ever know . . .maybe not, but dating for years, living together, whatever . . . will not a marriage make. . .its WORK, just like a job!!! A lot of nice fringe benefits though on this one!!