May have to get rid of all my chickies. Sorry, long.

[Celeste]

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is so very true!!! Also, I have told him so many times that he views people as disposable, and he really does. Everyone but me and the kids, anyway. He has lots of friends but has never had that lifelong connection with anyone but me. He is my best friend, my soul mate. We have worked through some extremely difficult situations since we married and we will this one, too. It just hurts right now.........

Again, thank you to everyone. I really appreciate alll of the kind words and thoughts. You guys are an awesome bunch here!!! This is definitely the best and the kindest group I have seen yet!!!

I'm glad to read this part after just now reading the first part. I think our military men count on us to support them when they have to do their jobs for low pay and low appreciation. You go girl! You're standing strong and you guys made a good choice!!

Stacy
Navy Wife

Yes they need support but those that have families should be fully supporting their spouse as well. We live with the low pay and low apprecaition as well.

 

[Hangin Wit My Peeps]

Oh my heart goes out to you ...I know how much you love your animals. What a stressful time for everyone. I know your hubby must miss you but he didn't have to put it that way to you. That must have made you feel terrible!

I sure hope you can find a way to make it all work out.

 

[Oblio13]

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Actually, they are by contract. When your obligation is up, you may indeed "just quit".

 

[Celeste]

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Actually, they are by contract. When your obligation is up, you may indeed "just quit".

Yes once the CONTRACT is up then you can get out if you have met the requirements to not be inactive ready reserves but contracts aren't a few months long, they are years. As I said....all branches ARE contract, you can't just up and quit when you get angry because it is causing family problems.

 

[Missouri chick]

Honey, DON'T YOU LISTEN ONE BIT TO THOSE WHO DON'T HAVE KIND THINGS TO SAY!!!!! My heart goes out to you. You are a very strong person who obvously loves her family. All her family. I thank you and I thank your husband for all you are doing for ME and MY COUNTRY. I wish,,,I so wish we could do more to help. You are correct, all marriages take lots of hard work. Sounds like yours is pretty grounded. Millitary marriages are that much harder. You do what you need to do for him, your son, and your family. Please remember to take a minute for yourself also. :aww

 

[Oblio13]

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Actually, they are by contract. When your obligation is up, you may indeed "just quit".

Yes once the CONTRACT is up then you can get out if you have met the requirements to not be inactive ready reserves but contracts aren't a few months long, they are years. As I said....all branches ARE contract, you can't just up and quit when you get angry because it is causing family problems.

Nor can you up and quit when you sign any other employment contract, or a mortgage or even a cell phone agreement.

The point is, when you join the military, you expect to be deployed. Even if you were so dense that you didn't realize it the first time, you certainly do if you re-up, which the fellow in question has done more than once.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

Thank you.

 

[Celeste]

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Yes once the CONTRACT is up then you can get out if you have met the requirements to not be inactive ready reserves but contracts aren't a few months long, they are years. As I said....all branches ARE contract, you can't just up and quit when you get angry because it is causing family problems.

Nor can you up and quit when you sign any other employment contract, or a mortgage or even a cell phone agreement.

The point is, when you join the military, you expect to be deployed. Even if you were so dense that you didn't realize it the first time, you certainly do if you re-up, which the fellow in question has done more than once.

If you really think that an active duty military contract is the same as a cell phone agreement or a mortgage payment then I am not sure what to say. A mortgage company doesn't dictate where you have to live and work. You may still have to pay for the house or the phone but you don't have to be "here." And "here" isnt' always deployed. Do you think that most the time we get to pick where we are stationed at??? I guess for some people the military lifestyle is one of those things that you won't ever know til you have experienced it.

 

[Oblio13]

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Want to see pics?

 

[purr]

Never mind t he the nay-sayers you just hang in there.

I'll tell you something that may make you feel better. When my daughter was 10 my husband had to go to Detroit for work, we had to stay in Ma. because we own a home here and my DH didn't want to put DD in a new school.So we stayed here that went on for a year and i cried every night and we fought on the phone all the time because I wanted us all to be together.
He kept saying he didn't want us to come. That broke my heart . I Wanted him to say come here with me never mind the house or a new school. But he wouldn't. So during spring vacation I went out there for a visit with a friend (her husband was there too. He worked with DH. On the way home on the plane she told me she was going home to get her daughter and then going back to live in Detroit. I was destroyed now not only was i not able to be with my husband but my best friend was leaving me too.
I packed up my daughter when i got back gave my house to my adult niece to watch and told my husband i'm coming whether you like it or not.
Well we were there for 2 years , i got a job and we lived in a truly awefull little apartment in a complex. which i remember fondly to this day cause we were a family there. My daughter did fine in her new school and gained alot of confidence from having to make new friends.
So when in a year when you have to leave and make a new home. Enter into it with an open mind and heart it might not turn out to be so bad.
And remember he's asking you to be with him and that's alot better than him asking you not to come
I wish you all the best