May have to get rid of all my chickies. Sorry, long.

[luvmychicknkids]

I, honestly, don't give a crap about your military history, oblio, so if you show pics do it somewhere besides my thread, please. Yes, deployments are expected. I am not dealing with a deployment. I am dealing with a husband who is stateside and can't live with his family because our son's health means nothing to our military. I am sure that you would have, in our situation, chose to allow your son to live in misery, constantly hospitalized and possibly die. Cool.....more power to you.

 

[2manyhats]

I think that we need to be encouraging rather than argumentative. Let's realize that we are not in a situation to judge another's life, but to encourage and make suggestions that we feel will possibly help.

Thank you to all here who serve our country in such a tangible way and to their families who are willing to sacrifice as well.

luvmychicknkids, hang in there. I am routing for you and your marriage. It sounds like you have got it together. Things have a way of working out even better than you thought they could.

 

[Oblio13]

Quote:
You asked for advice on an internet discussion forum. Here it is:

Lose the victim mentality. Don't blame the Air Force for your husband's career choice or your son's problems. Decide whether or not you want to be married.

I know you think I'm being harsh, but that's because you came here looking for enabling sympathizers. You found some, and they have good intentions, but they're doing you a disservice.

 

[fowltemptress]

Oh my. Last I checked this was such a sweet, supportive thread.
luvmychicknkids, I am sorry this situation was thrown upon you. Everytime I see one of your posts on this board it reinforces my belief that you are a fantastic person, and I enjoy reading them (yuck, I'm sounding rather stalkerish and corny, aren't I? sorry about that). Anyway, I hope you soon start getting lemonade after this bombardment of lemons.

 

[DuckLady]

You know, I started to edit and clean this up but decided not to.
Many tempers flared and things were said that shouldn't have.

Everyone needs to remain friendly and non combative because BYC is to remain a friendly place where you are able to have fun. We must not judge another's issues because we have not walked in their particular shoes. Similar maybe, but not exactly the same.

OP, my apologies and sympathies.
As a former military wife, my heart goes out to you and the dilemmas you face.