Maybe TMI - But need a Hug anyhow

[TigerLilly]

There is no shame in "crying over spilled milk" when it's in the situation you were in. I know I would have, as well.
Don't worry about what others think or say; you're doing a great thing for your child...and THAT's what matters!

 

[chickencrazymamahen]

Don't every doubt yourself, you are doing the best there is for your baby! I breastfed all of mine, first one was in the hospital for several weeks and I pumped and hauled to the hospital everyday because I couldn't hold her for a few weeks after her surgery and it went through a tube. Every drop of your milk is precious and worth any tears you need to shed. Hang in there!!!

 

[emmalynn]

Congrats to you for breastfeeding. Giving up your breaks and lunches to pump...totally understand, did it myself. Thought carefully over what to tell you because I can so imagine your tears....at least one of your insensitive co-workers didn't put it in their coffee!! Did you laugh? I hope so.

 

[hollymh]

Oh I know that feeling, so sorry, it's the worst to lose liquid gold

 

[melissa41927]

congratulations on making the right decision. i only got to bf my 2 kids for the first 6 months of their lives, i wish i could have done it more. i had to go to work after my first was born and i pumped for away, but it got to where my boss was just not accommodating me like i needed. my milk finally dried up, and i had to switch to formula. with my 2nd, i was in nursing school and they didn't really want to work with me when i had to go to clinicals so i could have time to pump. the first time i ask if i could go pump, the teacher just looked at me like "you need to go pump", like she couldn't believe it. i eventually had to stop because i was so stressed my milk would not let down. i was in my 2nd semester of nursing school, i had a 2 year old and a newborn to take care of by myself because my husband was overseas.

i wish i could have continued. i even co-slept with my 2nd. i miss the closeness.

 

[annaraven]

Well, my baby is 18 now. I breastfed both my DD who is now almost 20 and DS who is now 18. DD weaned herself at 18 months. DS had to be weaned at 3 months because my xH ("d"H at the time) was supplementing without telling me and I couldn't pump enough. Ended up with DS needing a specialized formula because he was diagnosed with failure to thrive. He turned out okay in the end but I still wish I could have found out soon enough to do *something* about it. (Still, there's a reason xH is an X.)

I totally understand the tears and I hope you know what a great mommy you are!

 

[Momagain1]

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I agree...
I hope I dont seem like a know it all; however I just wanted to give info.. I did go to classes to become a breastfeeding counselor thru the county health dept. for WIC...

95% of women CAN breastfeed; they just have been told they cant for some reason..oh you are taking this med...you cant...
oh you are working..its hard..you cant do that...
it is RARE to find a woman who CANNOT SUPPLY ENOUGH MILK for her baby or yes..even babies...I cannot
even begin to stress how rare it is. Most ppl say "I didnt produce enough milk..." altho..when I tried to show them
just how big their babies tummys are...they dont believe it...they did produce enough milk...the babies are EXPECTED
to latch every hour in the beginning..etc...and honestly; it is natures way of making mom take it slow in the beginning..
so ladies; sit down and latch those babies...its natures way of getting you to heal and BOND...

at one point in infancy; their tummy is only the size of a marble! a golf ball during the later months...
I cannot even comprehend why 8 oz bottles are continually fed to babies of formula (well and even B. Milk)....
the only reason you need to feed more often than formula fed babies is because breast milk is broke down by the body faster..

Per the pumping; I am VERY glad you are succesful at pumping. For me, pumping was a disaster....so I didnt even try it anyumore..we just
didnt need me to go to work at that time and was very blessed with staying at home..

pumping does NOT mimic the natural rhythms of a BF"ing baby..the tongue does move in a much different way than a pump that is just
suctioning...the tongue actually massages the glands and allows the flow to move down to the nipple...pumps dont do that..its 100% suction based..
I could pump for hours and get 1 oz...so I am VERY glad you are finding success in this!! I APPLAUD YOU!!!!

 

[Momagain1]

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I'm sorry; I wish you had a better support system..that is crucial!!!

 

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[BorderKelpie]

I remember BFing. The pain, the loooong hours, the tears - and more tears.

You go, girl! What a terrific thing you are doing. I honestly think weaning was the worst thing I have ever been through. I missed my babies!

Go ahead and cry, producing our future is the hardest job there is, and you are doing an excellent job at it. You deserve some hard earned tears.

Now, smile, you deserve the good feeling even more.

I have a funny BFing story if it may help a bit. My family (parents, inlaws, etc) went out to eat while my oldest DD was still nursing. She had been sleeping the whole time, of course, as soon as the food showed up, she was starving. I snuck her into my nursing shirt and started feeding myself. My dad finally figured out what I was doing and got this disgusted look on his face and exclaimed "Do you have to do that here, it's not natural?!" All I can still wonder is just where do you find a baby bottle tree?

DD is 17 yo, I still giggle about that one. lol