As far as men and opinions go, I find that men vary drastically. My ex gave me a horrible time when I gained a few extra pounds, calling me "fat" when I really was not fat, just gained a little weight. I felt so self conscious for a long time, and the guiltier I felt, the harder the weight was to lose. After I broke up with him, I moved and started dating another guy who said my body was "perfect". He's repeatedly said that. Just the other night, I told him I had lost a lot of weight, and he just shrugged and said "I thought you looked fine to begin with". He genuinely didn't seem to notice the few extra pounds that my ex had labeled as "fat". Now I just go by how I feel, not how a man feels. I want to look good for me. I'm not as stick skinny as I used to be, but I'm not overweight either. I think I look great, and have no complaints. So that's what matters at the end of the day, HOW I FEEL. If a guy doesn't like it, they can not let the door hit them in the butt, plain and simple. I will never be tortured by another man again about my weight or appearance.