Near the end of January, when my period was a few days late, I had a suspicion and took about 6 pregnancy tests to confirm that I was indeed pregnant. My morning sickness started a few days after that, it affected me quite badly. I was vomiting often, had a hard time finding food to eat that didn't nauseate me and was tired constantly. A few weeks later, I became very ill with a bad cold. I was vomiting even more, even more exhausted and had a hard time keeping liquids down. I also began suffering from depression. My husband had died last winter and this last spring (no lecturing, I've already heard it) began dating again. Though I know I jumped the gun, I did luck out in finding a wonderful man. He moved in with me end of last October. In spite of 3 kinds of borth control, I still wound up pregnant (still don't know how). Since rhythm was one method, I was keep meticulous records of my cycles. My last cycle began on Dec 24, 2011 (also was out of town and forgot pads, another reason I remember so well). Anyway, there was still some depression lurking from mourning my late husband but an unexpected pregnancy took its toll on me emotionally. So, while I was sick, I also contracted head lice from who-knows-where and fought that for most of February. So add anemia on top of all that. To make things worse, my principal told me because I had to set a role model for my students and that I was pregnant and unmarried less than a year after my husband passed, I "have to be discreet" with this pregnancy. Then because a combination of pregnancy/illness/anemia/depression my performance drastically declined at work and I was told that my contract would probably not be renewed the following school year (I don't have tenure yet). So add some stress and anxiety on top of that. My one saving grace was that DBF (and a dear, dear one at that) basically ran the house, chores, dishes, cooking, taking care of my daughter, animals and me. He was also looking forward to being a father again. I went in for an ultrasound last Thursday at 11 weeks (between 11 and 12) because the heartbeat couldn't be detected by doppler. OK< no problem, a little early, placenta gets in the way sometimes. Go in for an ultrasound in a few days. No heartbeat was detected on ultrasound at, again, 11weeks+. The sonographer kept giving the monitor weird looks, said she had to call the doctor. DBF said, "Don't worry, she probably just has to confirm it." So sonographer comes back in and tells me to go to the clinic right away. "Is something wrong?" "I can't tell you, I'm not a doctor" We go to the clinic and they tell us that no heartbeat was detected. I'm going in for a follow up on Thursday unless I start bleeding or cramping before then. I had some mild cramps this morning low in the pelvis that feel like period cramps but they went away. My morning sickness was much less since last Wed. (day before Ultrasound) and contrary to my usual state, I've had energy since Tuesday. My mother who is an RN and also had a miscarriage at 13 weeks said that the placenta can still kick out some hormones so it may take 4 weeks for the miscarriage to begin. Again, until I get the 2nd one, I'm just stressed being in limbo, not knowing exactly what's going on. I'm not Christian and while I appreciate prayers and thoughts, please no preaching at me. Has anyone else had an experience like this? Advice? My mother the RN said that the ultrasound is much more sensitive than the Doppler at this stage. She said if they can't find a heartbeat at 11 almost 12 weeks, then I've likely lost it. Shortly before my ultrasound, Mom began to act very weird, calling me a lot and getting panicky about my ob/gyn appointments and stuff. DBF also had a dream that something went wrong and I had to have an abortion, which I do know the procedure for a DNC is very similar to an abortion. And so we don't get the thread closed because I DO need the moral support, please no debates about abortion. I am going in for a 2nd sonogram before any DNC will take place.