Mother-in-law learns lesson.

[silkiechicken]

Ewe sheep, I so know where you are coming from! There are days I want to torch the place with the uncle inside since I'm sure a pile of magazines will fall over and trap him. I found broken lawn mowers in the garage and like anything new he buys ends up on top of the old and it goes bad!! And what more! Turns out he's been stealing from the business account for years which is how he now buys things. My dad cut him off when he found out and so he's been even more pissy as of late. I've reyclced truck loads of paper already! There are a few more too as I slowly take over! Grrr...

And about developments! If my dad wasn't so darn attached to the place (and retired for tax reasons as to not get dinged 40%) I'd had said sell the back 3 acres lot for the 1.2 million the developer offered for it! Crappy houses on 100 x 100 feet lots are gong for mid 300k's just behind our lot!! Even the fire department has gotten called because their trucks cannot get into some of the new developments and so the houses have to be called condos!

I can't wait till my dad retires... He deserves it. Retirement age is what? 66 or something? Well... he's sending the letter to medicare and social security saying he is not retiring yet so don't charge him. He's the only worker in our house, pays for everything and is putting my brother and I though school. My mom is stay at home and does the Asian mom thing. He doesn't "want" to retire till my brother at least gets his first degree. We are 19 and 21 and he is willing to put me through grad or professional school too! My dad is great. Maybe some day I can be half the engineer he is! Since I don't really want to be any bit of a man.

 

[EweSheep]

Last time I looked, retirement is 65 years old. Its a good thing if your dad will support you and brother to school. Once you finish school and get in the foothold of a job, then you can move out or wait until uncle kick the bucket. Man, its BAD!

We are getting wicked about thinking about torching our relatives house but we all know that we just have to put up with it. How old is your uncle? One of these days, your dad is going to get fed up with him and tell him to leave. Its bad enough to be on the deed.

 

[Enchanted Sunrise Farms]

Silkiechicken - Have you thought about sending your problem with your uncle to Dr. Phil? He sounds whacky enough to make a great show. You might end up with free counseling for the uncle and a clean-up crew for your property.

Just a thought.

 

[EweSheep]

I bet it would be a piece of cake for his uncle to get help but for my hubby's mother, forget it, its a lost cause

 

[ozark hen]

omg, you guys have me laughing so hard!! My dh's sister is 24 years older than he is and she is "visiting" for about a month. she fits some of the descriptions here to a tee. Used to bug me to death but now I just take care of her and ignore any comments. But I tell you reading this thread is like therapy into itself! Love it.

 

[Judymae]

I love hearing the comments made about MILs!!! Mainly because mine is dead!!! I'm not jealous at all. I know this sounds horrible but she has really put me through the ringer in the past.

I had the tatoo comment made to me too. She said only prostitutes have tattoos. Knowing I just got one!!! I told her then she had a hooker in the family!

My dh had inherited some china when he was only 16 so his mother had it stored at her house and told him when he got married she would let him have it. He really didn't care about china at 16 but when we got married he asked her for it and she said she didn't want me to get it and that our marriage wasn't gonna last and she would just keep it for him until he found the right woman.

My MIL also went to my dh's ex girlfriend and her that if she wanted him back she could get rid of me easily. The ex girlfriend really wanted to get back together with David. She started showing up when we were on dates. Which was funny since she lives in OK and we live in TX. One nite David dropped me off at my house and then went home. When he arrived home at 1am his mother and ex were sitting up waiting on him. He went to his room and called me and told me what was going on. I jumped in my car and headed over there. She wasn't gonna get my man! His mother freaked when I showed up at 1:30am. Made comments about it being too late to have visitors over and I said good then she (the ex) needed to leave too. It got ugly! The next week David and I were living together. Her trying to drive us apart pushed us together! Guess I should have thanked her before she died!!!

 

[silkiechicken]

EweSheep:

Culturally I won't be leaving home till I get married... but I'm fine with that. My presence makes my uncle nervous so I get a sick enjoyment out of that. My uncle is I think 8 or 9 years younger than my dad. 57 or something like that. My dad has put up with his little brother for half a century... doubt things are gong to change. I'm just going to wait it out since he doesn't look so healthy anyways and hopefully will fall over any time now. I just hope my dad can keep standing longer.

airheart43:

My mom and I joke about that ALL the time! But I think it would bring us more hassle than it is worth. Plus, my mom doesn't speak English that well so having to deal with a bunch of English speakers would just cause my dad more stress in the end. He's stressed out enough as is. Although... sounds like a good idea!

 

[Alleyoops25]

Rose and I would NEVER see eye to eye on things...she is a very notorious packrat...bought clothes and more clothes in garage sales and pack them all in closets, hubby's old bedroom and basement in boxes, almost filling them to the brim. More of plastic junk like bowels and glasses from DQ, remember those baseball hats that they served ice cream in? and MORE broken items that she was abusive to her electronic items like tape players and threw all of them in the basement as "you never know when you might need them and they will come in handy". Well I must admit some of those items are so old....and starting to rust or moldy.

Very sad, Your mother in law sounds like my mom!!!She gets into collecting things she realy likes,or thinks she needs, but doesnt. Onr summer she went out yard saling and brought homr suit cases, and not like newer more expensive ones. But ones in those ugly Green and yellow, vynl looikng one. While my dad was in the hospital I was asked to go clean there housem, I counted about 36 of the stupid thinks.And she doesnt have a basement or attic. Instead she feeled our roomsa full, and then when she ran out of space there she started down our old hall way, and then out in the living and throught the kitchen, leaving only a path through their rooms out thefront door and teh bathroom. Ii spent litterly 3/12 weeks trying to clean it all out, that was like 2 years ago, and sh promised me she would keep it cleaned but I swear I traveled back in time. It looks just like it did befor I cleaned it. The only difference is the crap that was piled up changed to her new interest, which is now work out equipment, cake decorating crap. And a thousand billion other thing. I couldnt believe it the last time we went out there. We didnt have a place to sit and visit with them. But fortunatly, we are no longer on speaking terms,.anymore so I dont have to do family curtsee's anymore.

 

[Alleyoops25]

But I love my mother in law. I picked her out. I knew her since I was five. Her DH died a couple years back. And My Father in law Divorced his wife, ( my DH's mom who died when he was little.) So I set them up and now they are married.

 

[SpottedCrow]

My DH's aunt once was on TV because her house was so cluttered that there was only a small path through all the rooms...She was on it in the 70's Real People, I think the show was, with John Davidson.
Seems like this cluttering thing was a rarity back then, but it's certainly not now, which is rather sad.

They say that clutterers and hoarders had a form of OCD...I admit that I have tons of papers that I don't never will never need, but can't seem to throw them out...but at least my basement floods and then I have a reason to toss them because they got wet.
DH isn't as bad, but he still has his draft card from when they were signing up all the right age folks to go hang out in rice paddies...oy...He says that he never knows when they'll call him...don't think so...
Culturally speaking...families are really big, even in my DH's family. They still talk to the family back in Greece and the distant relatives in Chicago and Las Vegas and TN.