Mother-in-law learns lesson.

[EweSheep]

Oh Good God! those MIL packrats should unite!

And get a diploma for In Law University in disorganization interior degree!

Tattoos dont always belong to hookers....even the white collar workers even wear them! If she would look at other cultures on the other side of the world, its beautiful to them. Personally I do not like tattoo nor would I encourage them but it is all up to the individuals to have themselves tattoo....some were downright tatty and some were very tastefully done that it was so beautiful.

Dang I am enjoying hearing other mother in laws laments! Some do have a point and others are just useless!

 

[candy37]

Oh, I'm so blessed to have an amazing MIL. I absolutely love her. My MIL and FIL are both wonderful people. I regret that we live 5 hours away from them. We used to live closer and saw them more often. I miss them.

I can completely understand the MIL horror stories though because they all describe my Mother!! I tell my husband all the time that I'm so sorry he got stuck with her for a MIL! I live about 20 minutes from her and I see her once a week, mostly because she informs me it is my duty to see her..."Won't you regret not spending time with me when I'm dead?" Hmm, how awful is it to say NO! She is nasty, mean, bitter, rude, more than just a little crazy (certified by a doc, not just the family's opinion!), and extremely judgemental of everything we do. I visit her but I keep the visits as short as possible. And forget going in public with her...she's just worse and so embarrassing!

Too bad my IL don't live closer. I'd go see them happily anytime. Gosh I miss them.

 

[mom'sfolly]

Candy, I agree with you. I got the the great MIL and my hubby got the horrible MIL. My mom is crazy, junk saving, mean, nasty and tough. Some of her qualities are admirable, but she is a bitter mean old woman, critical of everyone. I'm sorry that my husband has to deal with here, but she lives 3000 miles away so it is easier on everyone. Unfortunately, she lives within two miles of my poor sister.

 

[ratlummountain]

hmmm, my MIL isn't that bad. she could be worse but i don't let her.

she defintiely liked to lay the guilt trip on that i haven't provided her with oodles of grandkids. but i finally got ticked off enough one day and yelled at her about it.
she hasn't really said a peep since.

they also like to insist on giving us money and/or extragent gifts, then holding it over our heads.

as in "what do you mean you won't bring the dog over to visit? we just bought you that dining room table!"

i absolutely refuse to take anything from them now. even though we struggle financially sometimes, i don't need that crap.

 

[MandyH]

y'all are killing me with the MIL stories. I have to say that mine is a rare jewel. She cooks for me, dh and dd everyday. She buys dd everything, and she lives about 150 yards away. We have only ever had one disagreement and dh settled that and it has been smooth sailing since then. She is great to all of us and FIL is alright too. He knows EVERYTHING so between him and MY mom nobody has to know nothing, because they do. My mom is still pretty young 49 so my dh loves her. She is crazy, but hey that's what makes her so funny. My mom tells me everyday that I better be thankful that I got the In laws that I did, because I COULD be miserable like she is. MIL gets tickled at all the animals we have and everytime we have an addition or birth in the animal flock she is the first one up to the house. I don't care if it's midnight and she is in her gown she just HAS to come see.

 

[Agilityscots]

Those of you with disorganized MIL's are lucky--I have a Martha Stewart version!

My MIL is laced SO tight...her house is gorgeous, pristine and absolutely perfect in every way. She has a freaking nervous breakdown when paint chips or when landscapers accidentally mow down the hydrangeas. She is *petrified* of what other people think and she lets it control her life; she's all about the facade of looking good. I actually watched her snip branches off of their live Christmas tree and then rewire them into place for over an hour to get it looking just right. A few years ago on Thanksgiving, MIL complained bitterly about the neighbor across the street, because she had one of those PODS storage containers in her driveway and it "ruined the view" for our Thanksgiving dinner. Well, the poor neighbor's husband had cheated on her and she was going through a messy, painful divorce, and the PODS container was for her husband's stuff...but my MIL didn't care, she just didn't want anyone to have to see the unsightly storage container!

My MIL doesn't understand me. She doesn't like my dogs, doesn't like that I have a hobby (showing dogs) that doesn't involve her son (he's not interested), doesn't understand why I/we don't want children, silently inspects my house when she visits (which is once a year or less, because I don't invite her). I'm not a dirty person, but I'm sure the smudges on the walls from the dogs and the nose prints on the windows make her apoplectic.

Now that my husband's brother has spawned the first grandchild in the family, we've become invisible to his parents. When DH starts to tell them a story about something he fixed at our house or something that happened at work, he doesn't get two sentences in before his parents have literally walked away and are staring at/playing with the baby. They don't listen to a word we say any more. Some of this is normal, I think, but they aren't trying very hard. It's been very hurtful because they aren't interested in us at all. MIL and FIL decided to plan a big family vacation at the beach for next year because we all need an excuse to get together 600 miles away so we can stare at the grandkid...and they planned it for the week I graduate from college. They didn't even ask and it didn't even enter their minds, even though they know I've been going to college full time for the last two years and that returning to college after 10 years away was very difficult for me.

I just avoid them. My in-laws are not bad people, but my life is easier without them in it. I don't need the judgment.

Amy

 

[SpottedCrow]

That's crappy, but typical...

I could give a fig less what other people think...hmmm, wonder why I have no friends...LOL
DH's hobby is computers. Mine is Chickens, books and crafts.
Just because you're married doesn't mean that you're spliced together permanently and you have your genes screwed around with so that your identical...jeeze...
I would've tossed your MIL in the neighbour's POD with a note, "don't open til Xmas"

 

[ozark hen]

spotted crow...you are a hoot!

agilityscots-

 

[Agilityscots]

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Aaww, thanks Ozark.

Amy

 

[BigMama]

Wow, did I open a can of worms or what! I've been away from the computer for quite awhile and was suprised when I checked on this thread. I was a little irritated with my MIL when I started this thread. But she is a really great person.

When our house burnt down she opened her doors to us, she is alway inviting us over for supper or out to eat, she always welcomes my children over to her house, she babysits for my 7 and 9 yr old so that hubbie and I can have an occasional date night.

In fact, I get along better with her than my own mother!

My cousin and I were talking about MIL's and I realized how great I really have it. My cousin's MIL calls them several times a day, drives past their house several times a day, tells them when to mow their lawn, what to can, rearranges furniture when they aren't home, has pretty much taken over the raising of their son and makes all decisions regarding her grandson, and has even stolen important documents from their house when they aren't there such as their marriage certificate and the children's birth certificates because she is afraid they will lose them.