My husband is being a jerk!! >:(

[madamwlf]

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Umm, that's YOUR decision as to how to live your life. It DOES NOT give you the right to judge how others do! I too worked, went to school, and raised my kids, but I also respect those women who decide to spend more time with their kids! I missed a lot that I wish I hadn't because my schedule was so full while they were growing up ... when my third "surprise" child came along years later, I took more time with her and wouldn't change that for anything. As for a husband "supporting" a wife ... that's what spouses do! They support one another in whatever way is needed, whether that is emotionally, financially, or ... if you believe your equality in such a relationship is based on the money you bring to it, then that's just sad...

And this is why I hate forums. I wasn't judging, merely stating it is possible to do. So I'm done.

 

[Elite Silkies]

Silkiemomma, I'm with you! I'm a full time college student with 3 kids. One is Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, ODD, ADHD, one of the twins is just like this one with possible Neurofibromytosis and has severe headaches constantly. The other one, seems normal so far, lol. They are not at the Dr.s as much as they use to be, so that has eased up, but it's not easy. My girls have also taken rides in those helicopters. It's stressful and downright exhausting. One was born with apnea and both were born with severe reflux. One fought for her life. I waited until I thought they were old enough for me to go back to school. You have it harder than I do, and my life is hectic. I have not worked in 12 years, and I will not work for at least another 4 years, possibly 6 years, just depends on if I decide to go for my PA instead of just nursing. My nursing is already a 5 year course, should be 4, but my advisor can't seem to lift my hold until my needed classes are all taken!!

I have over 100 chickens, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 3 kids and a husband on top of Cleaning the house, laundry and wifely duties

If I had a full time job on top of what I have to do everyday, I would not be able to maintain my 4.0 GPA, and I would be a BEAR to live with

That 4.0 will get me in Nursing automatically.

Let me ask you a question? Do you get Federal Loans and Grants? If so, then Ma'am you are contributing to the household financially! Even if you don't, you still contribute to the household. It may not be with money, but by golly you contribute greatly to that household, those meals will not jump into the skillet by themselves, the clothes will not be washed, the house would look like a tornado hit it etc. etc.

I once read a wise women's story. Her husband thought she didn't contribute anything. So, she stayed in bed all day, and he came home and the house was destroyed. He said why is the house not cleaned. She said because I done today exactly what you think I do everyday. NOTHING!!

 

[chickenzoo]

If your husband can not understand that those children and your family are more deserving of his time and support then him blowing money, then I would tell him that you both either sit down and work things out and find a way to fix your relationship or you'll get his support through the courts. It takes two people to have a relationship, BOTH have to contribute to it in some way to make it grow, otherwise it is just one person holding on to memories. If you are full of resentment, your kids will feel it and that is no life for a child to grow up in. Your kids are more important than anything, do what is best for your family. I pray for you to find the strength and peace.

 

[EweSheep]

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Now that is ONE smart woman!

 

[Elite Silkies]

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Now that is ONE smart woman!

I bet that put him in his place!

 

[greeneggsandham]

Honestly I think you both need to see a counselor, one for your marriage and one for finances.
Video games and chickens should not take precedence over children.

 

[KristyHall]

have you sat and discussed this with him calmly and thoroughly? maybe wright out your grievances so that you can have them on hand when you talk?

 

[ChickyLove]

I didn't read all the responses, but I wanted to just put a few of my thoughts out there for you

Lot's of times gaming systems have been used as a means of escape from reality.

Having sick babies is rugged and I'm so sorry either one of you have to be worried and concerned over this.

As a woman who had to make some tough life choices about three years ago I can say this from my own perspective. I had to make a conscious choice as to how I wanted to live my life, whether I wanted it to be peaceful and simple or whether I was willing to put up with someone with control issues etc. Kids are pretty perceptive, and they pick up on tension etc. Nothing you don't already know. It can be very difficult to approach a situation that is already filled with big emotions and resentment, from a calm and rational point of view and mindset. I do agree with what Kristy said. Maybe a letter written out, left for a day, modified, left for a day and then finished may help you both see things from the other's point of view?

Praying for a peaceful resolution for you all and for the continued health of your little ones.

 

[ashleylancaster]

If You Want 4 And You Found 2 On Craigs List Get Those 2 And Then Buy The Other2 From The Place You Were First Going To Get Them At. Then He Cant Complain About The Price Cause It Should Be Cheaper.

 

[TinyTotsSeramas]

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I did get the 2 and the ones I was looking at before was on Mypetchicken.com where they ship the chicks. LF minimum for my area is 4 chicks, Bantams its 6 and Bantam/LF mix is 5.. So I cant get just 2 off of MPC an I havent been able to find anymore on CL.