My leukemia's back.

[bobbi-j]

I think that might depend on what state you live in.

Here in MN, you even have to have a vault for your coffin. Can't just put the box in the ground.

 

[bruceha2000]

Here in MN, you even have to have a vault for your coffin. Can't just put the box in the ground.

That is pretty sad, sounds like money grubbing. I can understand it in a place like New Orleans where the coffins float out of the ground.

 

[bobbi-j]

That is pretty sad, sounds like money grubbing. I can understand it in a place like New Orleans where the coffins float out of the ground.

Makes you wonder, doesn't it? When my Grandma died last fall, and we were making arrangements, we picked the least expensive (still $1500!) vault. The funeral home guy said, "We have this, but it's not waterproof" I told him, "That's OK - Grandma's not going to care anyway."

 

[bruceha2000]

Seems a good reason to get buried across the state line if one is against cremation

 

[lazy gardener]

speaking of gross things - were we? My friend on the senior bus is always talking about being cremated so there is no funeral or cemetary bills. She said she doesn't care if they just dump her ashes in the trash.

Personally I don't believe in cremation - in my faith you are supposed to return with all you were born with. At any rate it makes me very upset to hear her talk about it and she has been doing it for the 10.5 years I know her. Just too gruesome for me. It's her choice if she really wants that - I just want her to stop talking about it.

Is your friend actually riding a bus with you, or is that a "figure of speech"??? If you have made it clear to her that you are tired of hearing her ongoing discussion of cremation (tell her that that subject really burns you up.) and she keeps bringing it up, I'd find an other seat or find someone else to talk to.

 

[bruceha2000]

 

[oldrooster]

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Personally I don't believe in cremation - in my faith you are supposed to return with all you were born with.

What if an arm or leg is removed during a wreck? is that a one way ticket downstairs?

I told DH to save the funeral costs, take the skid loader, dig a hole out behind the barn and dump me in. Unfortunately, I think there are laws that wouldn't allow that...

check with your state here in Indiana you can start your own cemetery but the money and litigation makes it almost a lost cause to start one unless a church or organization like that or a private company starts one.

Here in MN, you even have to have a vault for your coffin. Can't just put the box in the ground.

can't speak to that in MN but in Indiana there was a bunch of crooked funeral directors several years back and caused our legislature and state AG to crack down on the industry as if it were a govt controlled monopoly they have to list all prices and requirements up front. one was they are forced to tell you that you do not need to embalm the body. unless a viewing is part of the service/ceremony (so if you have a direct cremation or closed casket no embalming needed) also a vault is not needed unless it's in the bylaws of the cemetery if it is not in them ir's up to you, many cemeteries had to change the bylaws and many had to pay up big time for lying about it.

 

[Cynthia12]

We already have our plots, even extra now, since they have gone to putting 2 in one. Yep. And yes, we need the coffin to be in something, can't just go into the ground. BYW... I have 2 eggs going into lock down tomorrow. The only 2 that I got started from this batch. Nuce folks, sent me more eggs. They are in Now.

 

[lazy gardener]

Agreed. Know your rights before that time comes. Also, if the individual makes arrangements ahead of time for themselves, this saves the family from being guilted into spending un-necessary money on un-necessary services after death. For myself, I have no convictions one way or an other what happens to my body after I'm done with it. Use any parts that are usable to benefit the living. Cremate or bury the rest. I hate to see good land tied up in cemeteries. Have you noticed that cemeteries are often located on prime real estate? Nice high hills, overlooking the city, and such? So, in that regard, I lean towards cremation. I am not aware of any scriptural instructions forbidding cremation (New Testament), so that is not an issue for me. But, I have the utmost respect for any one else's decisions regarding the matter. My Dad is very determined that cremation is wrong, and I will respect that, for sure!

And I agree there are a lot of shady folks out there who thrive on taking advantage of a grieving family member.

 

[oldrooster]

Makes you wonder, doesn't it? When my Grandma died last fall, and we were making arrangements, we picked the least expensive (still $1500!) vault. The funeral home guy said, "We have this, but it's not waterproof" I told him, "That's OK - Grandma's not going to care anyway."

My brothers forced my mom to get the "premium" vault with a "lifetime guarantee" because apparently dad's going to know if he gets cold and wet after he gets buried.....