My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[redhen]

Tonini...
I can understand how you are torn about signing the papers. I also, dont know if i could do it. Espically if the oncologist is saying something different. You are getting mixed messages.(it seems like) I couldnt make that decision either. I think you'll know deep in your heart when that time comes...
I cant express how badly i feel for you and your family. I keep feeling the hurt and pain that i know i would be feeling if i was loosing my mother. I'm so sorry..

 

[chixie]

I am so sorry... I hope I never have to face that... sending you and your family lots of hugs and prayers

 

[Sissy]

Tonini ,
our family were in the same position,the last 3 weeks mother was in so much pain We opted for the strongest pain meds every 4 hours.
because of her moaning we new the pain was there.
she never opened her eyes, refused food .water,
Her body had totaly shut down she was in terriable pain. and sleeping all the time. I did the Best I could for my best friend.
I let her go in Peace.
she always told me when she was well.
No life supports!
you and your family will know when its time.
to do the right thing.
I have you all in my prayers. with tears in my eyes.
Iam sending you Hugs, Be Brave for her.
God bless you all.
Sissy

 

[briana1975]

 

[mullers3acers]

Prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[Germaine_11.20]

I am so sorry Toni. My heart is breaking for you. It is so hard to see them suffer, the people you love.

We all have our different beliefs, but as for me, I think your Mom will be there in the room when you have your children. She will be watching and smiling and holding your hand whether you see her or not.

My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Boyd]

and prayers

 

[Big Chicken Little]

I am so sorry you have to go through this at such a young age...sending prayers your way. Spend as much time as you can with your mom and tell her how important she was in your life. Make her as comfortable as possible and most of all share your love with her.

God Bless you and your family !!

 

[whitecra]

I will be praying for her and your family. We are going through this with my mother in law now. She was told on Jan 1 she had cancer. In May the drs said she might have 2 weeks and look it is now Oct2. They sent her home a week after telling us she only had 2 weeks left. She is in bed all the time and she says off the wall things most of the time. I know how hard this is and I am praying.
Chris

 

[wegotchickens]

Is there any way you can take your mom home for her final hours?
If the oncologist says there really isn't any hope, then I'd ask about that.

My dad died of cancer Dec 22, 1999. He was at home. There was a nurse that checked on him once a day, but Mom gave him his pain meds. He died peacefully surrounded by people that he loved in his own home.

No matter what, you have support and love. Your mom may be your best female friend, but remember that your hubby is your partner and hurting because you hurt. Remember to give him a hug, okay?

And

to you, too.