My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[Karrie13]

 

[wegotchickens]

So sorry you are going through this.

This forum is such a wonderful source of support. Know you are prayed for and let it be a balm for your pain.

 

[The Chicken People]

So sorry to hear this...I too am loosing my mil she has stage four pancreatic cancer..its very hard to watch her battle this deadly disease..I have been distant from her in the last week ( unexpected family death and a wedding) and now I feel terrible...I am going to dedicate next week to spending more time with her...and I just hope she and your mom pass peacefully! God grant us the stregnth....Amen!

 

[bkreugar]

tonini3059 Wow I am sad for you.I lost my mom when i was 26 and she was 56 and I thought I was the YOUNGEST I had known who had lost their mother.

She is probably having problems being lucid because of the meds.It is hard , it will be hard ,it doesn't get easier for a long time and then it DOES get easier.How long is different for each person.Me I was VERY aware she was dying a slow death in the hospital before it happened.I was pretty prepared for the fact, but not the emptiness.

You mention your dad struggling. My parents were married 35 years.He turned to me which was VERY tough because we did not get along well.I would be prepared for that.Then my father got remarried to a great woman less than a year later.

You mention you being sad about your not yet here kids not having a grandmother. My mother was sick with kidney failure a VERY long time before she died.i waited to have kids till she was gone because my mother was frequently in the hospital and me being an only child I was the main caretaker.

Like someone else said she will still be there.

My fathers new wife made it easy for me because she understood it was important to ME to let my children know they have another grandmother who died.

I will be thinking of you.Try to stay strong and yet take care of yourself!

 

[THough1956]

So sorry, it is never easy to lose someone. Remember the goodtimes and just be with her and comfort her as much as you can.

And know that she loved you.

 

[BigSkyChickens]

You are not alone. I lost my mom a couple of years ago.....good job being strong for your mom...........it's a long road, but you are not alone. Healing thoughts and prayers to you, and a smile

 

[Carolyn]

I am a nurse and have worked with a lot of hospice patients so I've been there for patients and their families in the end. I've also lost both my parents though they were aged ( which is not the same kind of pain but it's still bad).

She can hear you even when you think she can't, even in a coma. Many people have been comatose and attest to having heard what was said to them during this time.

This is your chance to tell her how very much you love her, even to assure she has been a good mother and her teaching will make it possible for you to go on and be okay even though you will miss her. If she had gone out one day and had a head on with a truck, you would miss this opportunity. Use it to say good bye, use it to love her until the last breath. It will be easier for her just knowing you are there.

Know you are being prayed for and thought of by many.

 

[Sissy]

Tonini, stay strong for your mother. She can hear you.
My mother too was in and out of rationalality. and just slept then for 11days never saying another word. I sat with her holding her hand.and singing her favorite songs, over and over.
she passed 6 months ago and 8 months before that my younger sister.who was never ill.passed.in 6 weeks.
I found that singing to mother made her smile.
so I knew she could hear me.I know how your heart
is hurting,
I pray you and family stay strong and
your Mother has no pain.
God Bless you

 

[kargo]

I know it is hard to lose a parent.

 

[Wildsky]

I'm sorry. I lost my mom to cancer when I was 16, it was very hard on everyone!