My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[redhen]

They both are very beautiful.

 

[hiddenmagnolia]

Can you maybe have the services in a church or someone's home or a park. There are lots of other places to have the services. The urns are very beautiful. Maybe show her the urns and let her decide which one she likes best. My grandmother choose everything for her services. But she had a year after she found out she had cancer. Will be in prayer for your family.

 

[WingingIt]

The urns are beautiful. It's a very loving thing you are doing by finding her an urn she would like the design of (if she chose, which she won't, I know), but that perfectly represents her and her interests. I'm also glad that things are more clear for her now that she's home. You all remain in my prayers.

 

[tonini3059]

No having it at the funeral home is better i just cannot believe how expensive things are, we have the money that is not an issue. She cannot pick anything out because she thinks she is getting better and will be to upsetting for her.

 

[Sissy]

Tonini ,dont let mom pick out any thing
Allow her to think postive.Please...

I buried my mom in March. and she was happy
we were all there to keep her smiling,
but the last 11 days she
never opened her eyes or spoke . or moved ,
but I knew she could here me as I told you I
sang her favorite songs over and over until she took her last breath, I never left her side, Dh and Brther and little sister
were there when it was necessary for me
to leave and then it was only for a few minutes.
We were there day and night. and were ever so carefull of the things we said. Stay with her,
Stay strong for her. as it will help you .
our funeral director was great at helping us with shorts cuts.
yes the cost are out of sight.
thinking of you and mom and your family.
God bless and Keep you strong.
Sissy

 

[wegotchickens]

Yes, funeral costs are amazingly expensive. What a slap in the face for folks who are already suffering the loss of a loved one. And yet I can understand why...

The urns are lovely. Pick the one that makes you think of your mom.

But mostly, just enjoy the time you have with her. I hope that her joy over being home gives her renewed strength and extends the days you have with her!!

 

[dirtdoctor]

Do you know of a woodworker that can make a special box?

I have heard of craftsmen making beautiful wooden URN boxes.

Costs are so expensive now a days. I told my family to donate anything left to science and put the rest as ashes to spread in the mountains. Even if they had to carry me in a coffee can. After all it is just ashes, the soul is gone... Thank God for his Grace.

Best to you and the decisions you will be making.
Jack

 

[LiveandLetLive]

hmmn,

Do not want to upset anyone here . . BUT your Mom is 53 and is trying to believe she can make it, yet she seems to be surrounded by people who think she has no chance at all and will die inside of 2 weeks ?

Prepare as you will but please allow the possiblility (as painful as hoping can be) please allow the possiblity that she can be well.

I have been around miracles so there is always hope.

 

[tonini3059]

Well we hope she makes it , but she is in liver and kidney failure and has gained 40 lbs water weight. As much as I love her and do not want her to go I believe it is inevitable. We are all trying to hold on for hope, but we want to be prepared for when it does happen.

 

[agnes_day]

this is an idea...my sister bought a really nice cookie jar for my grandmother instead of an urn! it looks very lovely and it didnt cost an arm and a leg. they really do rip people off for those urns..my moms was 4000 dollars! she wouldve killed us if she wouldve known how much it was.