My Mother's Cancer. She has passed. 1/28/2011

[CedarRidgeChicks]

Ahh, no!..was so hoping for other news. Hugs and prayers to you!!....Now let me say..I to have been there 30 yrs ago I lost my mother to breast cancer..please listen to what Cindi and others have said!! We brought my Mom home from the hospital thinking "if she is well enough to come home, she is getting better"..she passed away that night!..I spent so much effort/time making sure treatments, meds were taken care of but no time talking and sharing with her..I regret that to this day..the talking we did centered around her being sick. One of the things I always wished we had done was record her reading to my two daughters..she did this daily, and they would have loved having that. Take some time yourself and write down things you want to say or questions you want to ask your Mom and like Cindi said celebrate now, laugh now, share now. I will continue to pray for you and your Mom!!..

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[Lunachick]

I'm so sorry Robin. I don't even know what to say............everyone else said it best.

 

[wegotchickens]

Pumpkinpup, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I've been reading but not posting, until now.

I lost Daddy to cancer 12/22/99. In November he quit doing the chemo, and it was the happiest I had heard his voice in ages. He dreaded it, hated the process, and knew it wasn't really working. He'd already come to terms with his situation, even if the rest of us hadn't. It was his choice to stop chemo and I don't think he regretted it.

No matter how old you are, it hurts to lose a parent. You've been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be in them.

 

[Intheswamp]

Robin, you are getting some good advice from many friends....follow your heart.

Your family is in our prayers, prayers for strength, comfort, wisdom, acceptance, love,...and so many other things that ya'll need a double dose of right now.

May God's love be with you,
Ed

Matthew 5:1-12

 

[greeneggsandham]

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Big hugs and prayers to you both.

I know this is a shot in the dark and I really have no clue if you can even find this around your area, but last year I had gone to a herbal store looking for dried herbs and the owner and I got talking about different things. He had mentioned that he was diagnosed with prostate cancer 8 years prior. A friend of his told him about Essiac a type of root that is turned into a tea. He said he has been drinking it faithfully for 7 1/2 years and his doctor cannot find any trace of the cancer. He also said that he never did the chemo. I do not know how far along his cancer was, but maybe do a google on the stuff and see. Me personally I would try anything in the world if I thought I had even a 1% chance of curing or putting it in remission.

 

[ozark hen]

so sorry

just know you are not alone, we on byc are here silently praying for you. cherish the time left, celebrate now as there will be time for tears later.

 

[redhen]

I'm so sorry, Robin.

 

[sfw2]

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This.

 

[rainierlass]

I know you aren't ready to loose her, and like you said you don't want her to suffer, but it just doesn't make it any easier on you or her. Get a big notebook and starting writing each other letters in it, to you, other family, anyone important and record all of her thoughts and feelings to everyone, and all of yours and their feelings and thoughts for her. Share it every day, talk about things, write down every memory you can and hold onto and value every single minute you have left with her. Make sure everyone spends time with her and adds to that memory book,, relive everything and let her help you make plans for the future. That way even though she might not be here,, when you do something you planned with her help, you will be including her and she will be with you every step and every memory of the way.

^^^^ This is soooooo very well said -

- I lost my mother to cancer 2 years ago - after nearly 5 years of chemo for colon and then liver cancer - we finally decided as did she that she would rather have 6-7 months of feeling good and enjoying life more - rather than sleeping 24/7 - so she discontinued the chemo treatments in November and she had a fantastic Christmas - a great Easter and celebration of her 81st birthday - - we lost her in July after really only a week of being in bed and taking morphine ........she slept her way to the 'other side' and I was at peace...........I miss her every waking moment - but as far-fetched as this sounds..........she has been with me numerous times since........and it gives me comfort.

The megace is another great suggestion.......it helped my mother eat while she was taking treatments - other then being soooooooo tired she never complained of much pain and took nausea meds.

Do everything you can to keep her smiling - - it will help her know you will be okay.......

 

[ozark hen]

rainierlass-you brought tears to my eyes, beautiful.