My son invited a house guest

[Nava]

just wondering how her check up went?

 

[Rare Feathers Farm]

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don't forget to quarantine for 3 weeks, she might look healthy but she could be a carrier

 

[Rare Feathers Farm]

We have an 18 yo boy living with us...he moved in a little over a month ago...feels like 10 years! LOL DH came home one night and gave me his sob story and I told him no. I reminded him I was pregnant and didn't want another person stressing me out or costing me extra money. However, DH said it's a done deal and he's coming tomorrow!

This kid has almost eaten us out of house & home--I finally had to stop buying milk because at $4/gallon and with him drinking 4 gallons a week--it was too much!

Luckily, he's graduating H.S. in June and we're moving him to an apartment the weekend after he graduates and he's starting summer college courses soon after.

One nice thing is that he's pretty clean and he earns his keep by feeding & watering all of the animals every night. Of course, I go out before and then after he does this so I can double check his work and I collect the eggs....which helps since I'm preggo and not very mobile.

He got an MIP back around Christmas so he's got a suspended license, a curfew and stuff...we live so far out of town he can't work because we'd have to chauffeur him around. He does get money monthly from the tribe but he's hoarding it. LOL

For an early graduation present, we bought him a mini fridge so he could buy his own milk but so far he hasn't.

Anyway--good luck to you...I would definitely set a move-out date and stick to it!

 

[PotterWatch]

When I was growing up, my parents took in house guests several times. Once it was my oldest brother's high school girlfriend but this was ten years after high school. She needed a place to rent in between job transitions and was always polite and nice to have around as far as I remember. Another time it was a friend of my sister's whose parents had kicked him out because they disagreed with his lifestyle. Again, always polite and nice. I have always thought that I would do the same for someone if the need arose. So far it hasn't but who knows what the future will bring as my children and their friends grow older...

 

[Anna_B_Happy]

I knew a few girls in high school who were living with foster families, and not the good kind of foster families. These girls had it rough and no one cared about them. They were not trouble makers or problems, just unwanted and unloved. I always hoped I would have the chance to help someone like that. Maybe this will turn out to be a good experience for you all?

 

[cyrixlord]

I think the most important thing that you can add to your house rules is a time line. If you don't do a timeline, you will find yourself in an uncomfortable position of trying to boot her out and her trying to appeal because she didnt know the timeline.


something like this in writing will go a long way to avoid heartbreaking uncomfort. you can renegotiate the terms as needed but knowing everything up front will go a long way! she will know what you are expecting!

"Welcome to the house!" If you aren't actively seeking work and interviewing within 2 weeks, you're out. if you find work, thats fine but by 2 months you need to think about renting an appt with yoru saved money. if you're blowing it on tattoos, then you're out

hope this helps, this has helped informalize an otherwise terrible situation if you find that they are just using you for a free ride.

 

[zippitydooda]

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nevermind.... my response didnt really apply to the OP, sorry

 

[schellie69]

Hope things work out for you.

 

[annaraven]

So far, she's been an ideal houseguest. She spends a lot of time in her room, and is pretty quiet, but is complaint when asked to do things. I had to insist she start speaking up when I ask her a question cuz otherwise I can't hear her answer! She's been having a particularly good influence on DS -he actually goes to bed on time and gets up in the morning okay and goes to school without complaint and comes to dinner with us and everything. And the other day, she harvested the empty (and non-empty ewwwww) cups from DS's room without being asked. She went with us to get an ID card but only had a photocopy of her birth certificate. We had to order a certified copy online and it just arrived. Of course, we're in the middle of a storm. Monday, I'll drag her down to get a new ID, and she can start the job hunt. (I'm not making anybody go out in this weather if they don't have to!)

 

[onthespot]

One word. Norplant.