My Space?!

[TxChiknRanchers]

OK thats all well and good. no problem with the teaching and progressive nuvo child raising. However it aint workin. look at the statistics.

Teach and show, communicate and be respectful but if you are disrespected you will loose control if you do not hold people responsible for their actions. No lying or breaking the rules or you will lose privledges . Old fashioned maybe, but if this was a perfect world there would be no Moderators needed on this site.

The new age children need to be held accountable for their actions and then maybe there wont be so many bad actions. When I was young rule breaker and went out drinking, I was given an axe and told to chop trees in the pasture until I puked or the sun went down. Gave up drinking after a couple of those. So do as you may Responsible adults aren't that way because its the easy way out. Whats wrong with Honor Thy father and Mother.

Not many following those rules much anymore the pity!

 

[TransplantedTexan]

I certainly did not mean to advocate letting kids do anything and everything, or disrespect thier elders. I do believe in consequences for actions. However in my opinion, not being able to have a myspace if all that the child does there is appropriate makes about as much sense as when my parents tried telling me rock and roll was the "devils music."

 

[herechickchick]

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FABULOUS ADVISE!

 

[broncbuster07]

I think I will keep my daughter locked in her room until she's 30!

 

[TxChiknRanchers]

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I agree with the devil music thing. there have been mistakes made.

Did not mean to blast you personally, I agree with the premise that you should communicate and be close to kids and should let them explore life SAFELY. But too many young people are growing up with no boundries and no discipline or not enough.

I just believe in respect me and my wishes and rules for your safety or you will not get any respect in return .

Its a pet peave of mine. If a child goes behind your back and lies. The communication starts after the privledges have been removed and everyone is clear on where they stand and only resumed if honesty is shown by the perpetrator.

Mine always knew that I did not mind them not liking me or being mad at me but they had to respect my wishes or pay the consequences. So far none of the six have been to jail or drug rehab or aborted unwanted life.

OK I'm gonna chop up my soapbox now to use as firewood cause its gonna get cold out tonight.

 

[TransplantedTexan]

No worries, I took nothing personally.
I also agree with you. I will not tolerate lying. Especialy since my children can come to me with just about anything,and know that I been there and probably worse.
What I said in the earlier post sounds pretty progressive, but there is a good sized list of things I will not tolerate, mostly for their personal safety. If they cross that line I will snatch them up so it will make their head spin.
It is my opinion though that you must be able to give a kid a logical reason for what they are not to do, or do. "Because I said so" never cut it for me.
"You might meet a child molester on myspace" would not have cut it for me either.
The desire to not be a "freak" in the eyes of thier peers is strong. If you can't give them some solid logical reason, they will go with their reasoning.
You might get hit by a car checking the mail, yet every one stands in the road and gets their mail.
How many people use myspace appropriatly and safely.
Should not the focus of parenting be to teach your children how to do all things in this manner?
To me that's like not letting your kid drive cause there is the risk of a drunk driver being on the road at the same time.

 

[broncbuster07]

Very well said, TT!

 

[TreyClark281]

i read most of the post and yall are talking about myspace and how rappest are on there and they can look at whatever.
if i where an adult id rather my kids be on myspace talking to there friends and nothing else than be on some fourm like this one (but this one is an exception

lol.) but this is more interactive and people can read all of your post and everything see your pictures.
myspace on the other hand is totally private (if you want it to be i choose to.) but if you are worrying about your kid adding and talking to a 48 year old guy then your kid had problems i personally don't add anyone i don't know. if they add me and i don't know then i look around on most of my friends sights until i find them and ask them in a message if they know them.
if they know them ill send them a message w/o adding them to where they can see everything and ask them if i know them. and if they don't, DENY!!!! just tell your kids they are stupid if they add a random person and tell them having 34987123894123094821390482109358 friends on myspace is stupid because no one can possibly know that many people that is what my dad told me and because im 15 "i know dad!" lol.


just to sum it up how would you feel if your kids check up on byc and see what you are typing and saying.
i know yall have to be parents and protect but live and learn.
have trust in your kids.


but you know im just some teenager trying to rebel and i dont know what its like.

but your kids are growing up in the internet world.


now im just rambling lol

 

[broncbuster07]

Smart words from that there youngster!

 

[TxChiknRanchers]

OK i'll bite the bait.

just to sum it up how would you feel if your kids check up on byc and see what you are typing and saying.

Mine can see what I'm typing anytime. NO fear of my Exposure here. After all it is a sickness that I have to deal with

i know yall have to be parents and protect but live and learn.
have trust in your kids.

Trust is earned. To Live and learn you gotta stay living, thats what parents all over the world are trying to accomplish

but you know im just some teenager trying to rebel and i dont know what its like.

The Prosecution Rests.

No problem with myspace particularly just kids that lie and do not obey rules. that was my original point, after all Hobbychickener wrote:

The point is that I told her NO!!​