My DD is back to her old tricks again.
Looked through my cell phone bill and her line alone has over 3400 minutes used!!! (in 1 month_
My DD went through HELL this summer, or so I thought.
She said she learned her lesson, or so I thought.
I felt sorry for her and give her her phone back once the charges were dropped. I figured she had been wrongly branded and needed a new start.
That very day, she started back up talking to this same boy 3 to 4 hours away.
I give her the option to tell me the TRUTH or I would contact the Sheriff's Dept. and press charges on this boy.
She made the initial contact, gave out her cell phone # (which technically is mine since it is in my business's name and I pay the bill),
and has been chatting away all during the night for 2 months!
Now, she has no cell phone and will not have one until she is 18 and can get her own account in her name, she will not go to grandma's to spend the night anymore, she will not go with the neighbor to the YMCA anymore!!!
I feel like the biggest fool ever for trying to trust her again!!
All summer and the past 2 months, she has been such a joy to be around, no attitude, no eyerolling, no bad tone, and no smart remarks to anyone.
We had been talking so much and getting along so well.
Just as soon as I hand down punishment, she's back to her old self.
Hasn't spoken 10 words to me since Thursday night when I confronted her, and has stayed in her room 95% of the time,
only comes out for bathroom or to eat!!
Bubba, this question is for you,
Who's fault is it this time for her shutting me out??
My personal feelings are I absolutely flatout refuse to go back to a teenager causing me and my other kids so much hell. I absolutely will not allow that to happen.
From where I'm standing, she was the perfect kid as long as she was doing just what she wanted (breaking the rules).
The problem arose again once she got caught!!!
This tells me that she is in no way mature enough or responsible enough to be out of my sight!!
If after all she has been thru and she still refuses to obey the rules, what are my choices now?
In the state of NC, I am legally responsible for her actions until she is 18!!
I am sorry if I offend anyone but if she wants any privelege whatsoever, she is looking to the wrong person.
She has consistently taken advantage of my generosity and has proven too many times that she is not trustworthy.
So, if she chooses to shut me out again because I am doing my job as a parent, then SO BE IT!!
That is a decision I can live with and a decision she will have to learn to live with.
But I have warned her that under no circumstances will she holler at me, roll her eyes at me, or basically do anything that disrespects me in any way.
If that means I have to slap her face, then I will do so willingly.
You see, I have went out of my way to talk to her, to show her that I'm trying to protect her from danger;
She has been told many times that she can talk to me about anything, but at the same time, she also must understand that if she has done wrong, there will be consequences.
I have tried to be strict with her, I have tried to be her friend, I have tried to reason with her, I have also tried the leniency approach and yet she still proceeds to break the rules.
The real problem here is:
Teenagers think they are grown, and they should be able to do whatever they want to. They see no problem with disregarding authority if that authority disagrees with their way of thinking.
This whole DD situation has already caused several arguments between me and DH;
This was found Thursday night, this is Saturday night and he still hasn't said one word to DD about what she has done! Hasn't even asked her why she did it again even tho we have told her this is unacceptble behavior.
I feel it is part his job as daddy to have a say in the discipline and punishment but he doesn't because "he's just too busy at work and doesn't care" (his words not mine)
I just can not handle having to deal with this unruly behavior again. I am ready to pack her clothes and send her to MIL and let her deal with it.
I say that because regardless of what DD does, she's still the perfect little angel in MIL's eyes.
There is so much tension between me and DH that I refuse to help him paint tomorrow, and anyday after.
I strongly feel that until he is willing to fulfill his responsibility at the homefront, I am not willing to fulfill mine on the jobsite.
Childish of me??
Maybe so, but one person can only deal with so much and I am not going back to allowing a teenager to take control of my home again!!
It's not a matter of hobbychickener's daughter regaining his trust.
She broke the rules !!!Regardless of whoever set up the account, she broke the rule by using the account when she was told "NO".
So, it's really a matter of hobbychickener regaining dd's trust!!
Back to my own dd now.
I have even told her if she could give me 1 good reason why she should be allowed to talk to these 'long distance boys', I might would consider modifying the rules a little.
Her only reason is "Because I want to"