So, I moved into a great little place with the man in my life in June. I am, typically, very opposed to living with others and was VERY wary of moving in to his home rather than getting our own to start fresh for both of us. We did not do this though, and I moved into his home which is in a lovely, rural area still fairly close to Portland. He has a lifetime lease here - his brother is the owner/landlord and there has been some talk about us buying half - our house and 2.5 acres of land. I have been the major road block to this since moving in because - well, lots of reasons. Before I moved in I was aware of some issues with the house - there is a plumbing problem that makes the toilet back up pretty regularly (3-6 times a day if it rains, which has been a lot this summer here - sorry Texans) and sometimes the whole system backs up into the sinks and the washing machine. I have lost several loads of laundry this summer. We also have a broken furnace, which is not great as cold weather is rapidly approaching, and my SO has battled black mold a few times in the last year - but not since I moved in. So, maybe you can see why I was hesitant to move in. I was assured that the brother was very handy and that these things would be fixed sooner if I lived there. I have kids and am actually home since I work from here, and his brother would get it done. Humph. My SO's brother is an electrician and plumber, and general handyman by trade and is VERY busy & successful at it. He took the furnace out a few weeks ago & repaired it over a week, put it back in and found it was STILL broken in the same spot. Haven't seen him since (that was last Sunday). He said, when he was here getting the furnace the first day that we "shouldn't have to live like this" (my SO unclogged the toilet while he was there) and said he would handle that too. Well, he dug a huge hole in the yard, had an employee fill it in, and I just unclogged my toilet for the second time today. As the brother revved up his Harley to go out for a ride. Winter is rapidly approaching and I have no heat, and a perpetually clogged toilet, and last week when I was mopping I found more mold by the toilet (big shocker) and then also in the kitchen under the sink (where a lot of backups have happened this summer), and by the trash barrel. That is over by a spot above the back door where a lot of water leaks in from the ceiling (during hurricane Irene it sounded like it was raining in here but I was the only one here, so no one saw how bad it was (and I forgot about it in the opening portion of this rant!) but me. My SO leaves his mother to deal with this stuff - she doesn't live here and COME ON NOW we are all adults...right? And before I moved in there was concern from his brother that he would get "stuck in the middle" of his brother & I, so I am reluctant to talk to him about this stuff Were it another landlord I would just withhold rent, and maybe I should still, but BOO, I don't want to go there. I want us all to get along. I love the property and the freedom it affords me to live the life I want, it has prime land and gets so much sun that I can garden really successfully and there is enough land that I can expand my little projects pretty far. If the maintenance were handled appropriately I would consider buying half of the place. But, as it stands, there are rotted parts under the sink, the ceiling in the kitchen, the plumbing, the heat... I'd be crazy to buy. I uprooted my whole life to move here & am rebuilding my business but it is slow in this economic climate, I can't really afford to move out right now and I don't want to move my kids AGAIN. I am so sick of unclogging toilets and mopping poo water off the floor multiple times a day. If my SO comes home and the toilet is clogged he gets mad like I saved the job for him (even if I didn't know it happened, I don't stand there & watch the toilet flush after others use it), and he says we can use electric heaters if it gets much colder. I am so sick of paying most of my income every month to live in a gross place. I am a very tidy person but find myself less enthusiastic about housework the longer these things roll on. It is a lonesome job making hearth & home when the sink backs up and makes the whole kitchen smell like sewer. Ok, enough, I am sorry to burden you all, just had to vent.