My uncle's girlfriend's anklebiter.

[onthespot]

Yeah...


ps I don't have or like kids either... but marriage is about joining families. Families are messy, noisy, rude, inconvenient. If you can't handle them all dressed up and on their best behavior, when can you handle them? Maybe you could save a lot more and just have a shackup shower, take the gifts and not cater or have a venue.

 

[bt03]

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My grandfather used to call people of a different race certain things when I was little... It's not something I repeat just because he said it. And really "little mofos"? Perhaps you or your friend Amy shouldn't be around children at all. That is not a term of endearment that is just mean and personally if I knew my sitter was calling my child that she would be out of a job faster than she could blink.

As for the tit for tat on the catering that is REALLY tacky. Are you sure you are mature enough to be getting married? I have a friend that spent $50 per person on catering at her wedding and still I figured out a way to spend only $7 per person on catering. It's not about how much something costs or out doing the next person, it's about marrying the love of your life and starting something beautiful together. Good luck to you and your fiance.

 

[ChickieBooBoo]

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X2...

 

[tls_ranch]

I've always wondered why people want big weddings that cost so much? Why bankrupt your family or yourselves trying to one up someone else? I would think all that money...$1000's and $1000's spent on dresses (only wear once), catering (yeah, like any mass produced meals are worth it), flowers, and dried out cake etc. I guess my husband and I were too practical (cheap, LOL) we chose to use the money on a washer/dryer, a new (used) car, down payment on a house, savings etc... It cost us around $500 to get married (including honeymoon) We loved it!

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Lana you seem not to get that calling someone's loved ones rude names is extremely insulting. I doubt that you would like it if your family referred to your fiance as a mofo. Rude is rude no matter the age of the person being spoke of in such a manner. And yes it is worse to call children those names because small children can't defend themselves to an adult. Maybe you really don't get why it is rude but you are an adult and can refrain from behavior that others find rude and insulting.

 

[ChickieBooBoo]

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I agree, as a "kid" myself I was a bit insulted.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Ugh. People, really. I always called kids ankle-biters and carpet crawlers and curtain climbers. They're just jokes. It is not like calling a hnadicapped person mean name. It usually refers to very young kids, not kids old enough to be on the computer!

And I am sorry. But, not everyone wants children at their big event. Its their event and yes, you have the right to choose not to go if some one doesn't invite your precious bundle of joy, but they don't belong everywhere. You don't take them to the office! You don't take them to black tie events.

I had kids IN my wedding but I respect other people's right not to have them.


I respect other people's right to make jokes, too.

 

[ranchhand]

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That. And I'm also trying to imagine living a life where every dollar had to be matched, one for one. Especially when it comes to gifts, weddings, imagine the holidays! You don't know how much they spent on you, so you have to guess! What about the spouse's birthday, will he have to match you dollar for dollar? Yikes, I am careful with money, but don't worry about matching the amounts spent.

I'm thinking that you are of an analytical mind. Maybe it's time to loosen up a bit, go with the flow a little more and stop worrying about the pennies!

And by the way, do you know what "mofo" is short for?

Ankle biters, knee gnawers, curtain climbers, I've heard most and not taken offense. But "mofo"? NOT acceptable unless you are alone in your car on a gridlocked freeway and someone wants to shove you over. And even then you'd best hope no one around you can lip read.

 

[tazcat70]

Honestly, she can call kids whatever she wants. The point I was trying to get across is, don't be upset if people you care about decides not to attend because children are not invited. I have been to both types of weddings. At the more formal one, most people did not bring their children, maybe 20 total were there. I have a special needs child, I took him out of the church and we spent the entire ceremony playing outside. During the reception, we had a few times that we went outside as well. At any of the weddings if they would have said no children, I just would not have attended. I also would not have sent a gift.

The breaking even is tacky...no way around that. If you are trying to break even, or come out a head. Get a cheaper caterer. Seriously. You could save $400.00 just by reducing the catering costs by $5.00 per person. That would buy you some really great items for the house, and no one would even know. At the formal wedding, the meal was nice, lots of choices, but was that what I remember the most about it? No, it was how much fun we had, dancing to the DJ, and talking with family and friends. Where there is a will there is a way.

 

[DuckLady]

OMG, I had a relative who whined and moaned about paying $50 a head for the wedding dinner and their gifts didn't cover it.

I told her to look up the word "gift" in the dictionary.

And if she was charging admission by inviting family to witness and share in her special day, there should have been a bill and a ticket in the invitation.


ETA..this relative also wanted her mother to call up the relatives that didn't cough up enough to tell them what was what. Her mother told her to grow up.