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We have a winner!
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Need ADVICE on a guy lol GIRL ADVICE!! LOL
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We have a winner!
Dooooo ittttt!! Kiss him!!
We have a winner!
Dooooo ittttt!! Kiss him!!
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Lol comming from a guy, who infact waited around for a year, and then 6 more months while the girl i loved dated another guy after i screwed it up the first time, i can tell you to do not waste any time. Tell him how you feel about him ect and see what he wants! any guy i know would show the same back. Usually if he is spending this time with you its because yes he does like you too. you will never know how much untill you try.
goodluck
Boys like to chase and hunt, but they don't like to be pursued.
Instead of saying the words, send the signals. Compliment, appreciate, laugh at all his worst jokes and let your eyes ravish him... but let him hunt you like an exotic, hard-to-trap creature.
Instead of saying the words, send the signals. Compliment, appreciate, laugh at all his worst jokes and let your eyes ravish him... but let him hunt you like an exotic, hard-to-trap creature.
Advice from an old lady who's been through the dating thing and the marriage thing:
Proceed with caution.
Don't kiss him unless you want a sexual relationship. Is that what you want? Think about what that will get you. Men and women are different hormonally, and they view sexuality differently.
The best relationships are those where both parties are honest about their expectations, and can talk freely about things. But you need to be clear about what you want first.
Do you want a casual relationship, or are you dating to see if he's a match for a long term committed relationship? Have you ever sat down with yourself and pondered what qualities and traits you would want in a long term committed relationship? Do you want to marry someday? Ideally, dating is getting to know the man so that you can tell if he fits your well thought out profile. Then it it's not a fit, you can part friends. Imposing your expectations on him isn't appropriate till you have a ring and a date!
Remember, your hormones can really mess up your logical thinking.
Also remember, the area of the human brain responsible for emotional control doesn't mature fully until age 25. It's not that you're not smart enough to handle this, but your brain physiology is still developing. So be very careful, and be honest with yourself about what you really want. It's really easy to create a past for yourself that you'll be regretting later.
A nice guy won't run away from a friendship. And a nice guy won't pressure you for more than you're ready for.
There's nothing wrong with friendship.
Proceed with caution.
Don't kiss him unless you want a sexual relationship. Is that what you want? Think about what that will get you. Men and women are different hormonally, and they view sexuality differently.
The best relationships are those where both parties are honest about their expectations, and can talk freely about things. But you need to be clear about what you want first.
Do you want a casual relationship, or are you dating to see if he's a match for a long term committed relationship? Have you ever sat down with yourself and pondered what qualities and traits you would want in a long term committed relationship? Do you want to marry someday? Ideally, dating is getting to know the man so that you can tell if he fits your well thought out profile. Then it it's not a fit, you can part friends. Imposing your expectations on him isn't appropriate till you have a ring and a date!
Remember, your hormones can really mess up your logical thinking.
Also remember, the area of the human brain responsible for emotional control doesn't mature fully until age 25. It's not that you're not smart enough to handle this, but your brain physiology is still developing. So be very careful, and be honest with yourself about what you really want. It's really easy to create a past for yourself that you'll be regretting later.
A nice guy won't run away from a friendship. And a nice guy won't pressure you for more than you're ready for.
There's nothing wrong with friendship.
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Excellent advice!! take your time, savor each moment.
Excellent advice!! take your time, savor each moment.
I don't think I'd laugh if the jokes were bad, or if I caught myself laughing, out of embarassment, that would kind of be a turn off for me. The goal shouldn't be to catch a guy, any guy, because we can't be complete without one. That's not the truth. I also think a grown woman wouldn't want a "boy", she would want a man.
I think men and women are both worth more respect than that. Not into the games that much any more. They're "fun" maybe, short term. But the long term pain ain't worth it.
Honesty, kindness, patience, respect, thoughtfulness; these are the things that will help you in the long run.
I don't mean to rain on anyone's parade here, but the consequences to women for getting into the wrong relationship too often involve children being born to single moms, and that's the leading indicator for a life of poverty in the United States. The way we deal with each other as human beings with minds and hearts and feelings, not to mention the hurts and insecurities, is critically important. I'm a little sensitive on this issue, because in my work and in my ministry, I see way too much enduring heartbreak as a result of treating relationships in a casual or manipulative way, and the damage goes on for generations.
I think men and women are both worth more respect than that. Not into the games that much any more. They're "fun" maybe, short term. But the long term pain ain't worth it.
Honesty, kindness, patience, respect, thoughtfulness; these are the things that will help you in the long run.
I don't mean to rain on anyone's parade here, but the consequences to women for getting into the wrong relationship too often involve children being born to single moms, and that's the leading indicator for a life of poverty in the United States. The way we deal with each other as human beings with minds and hearts and feelings, not to mention the hurts and insecurities, is critically important. I'm a little sensitive on this issue, because in my work and in my ministry, I see way too much enduring heartbreak as a result of treating relationships in a casual or manipulative way, and the damage goes on for generations.
Opinion from an adult male. Notice, I said opinion, not advise.
I am guessing that you are 17. You will get your heart broken. If not this time, sometime in the future. That said, you only live once. There are other ways other than kissing him to see if he is interested. Note- he is 21. If you are reasonably attractive to him, he will be interested, if only in sex.
A gentle touch, shifting your position so that you are touching, maybe sneaking your hand into his.... All will tell you if he is interested. He will reciprocate if he is.
My ADVISE is to talk to your mom and dad. Let me repeat. My ADVISE is to talk to your mom and dad.
There is no sense in giving him something for free, if he is not really worth it, and right now, you are so starry eyed, he could be a serial killer and you wouldn't see it, you would see his sensitive vulnerable side.
Once you give it, you cannot take it back so make sure that you are making the decision for yourself.
I wish you the best of luck, and for your own sake, if it comes to it, use protection. It only takes 1 time to get Syphillis, HPV, HIV, Herpes, etc... and it only takes ONE time to get pregnant, then, like it or not, you are tied to him for life, as well as the trials and tribulations of babies raising babies.
I am guessing that you are 17. You will get your heart broken. If not this time, sometime in the future. That said, you only live once. There are other ways other than kissing him to see if he is interested. Note- he is 21. If you are reasonably attractive to him, he will be interested, if only in sex.
A gentle touch, shifting your position so that you are touching, maybe sneaking your hand into his.... All will tell you if he is interested. He will reciprocate if he is.
My ADVISE is to talk to your mom and dad. Let me repeat. My ADVISE is to talk to your mom and dad.
There is no sense in giving him something for free, if he is not really worth it, and right now, you are so starry eyed, he could be a serial killer and you wouldn't see it, you would see his sensitive vulnerable side.
Once you give it, you cannot take it back so make sure that you are making the decision for yourself.
I wish you the best of luck, and for your own sake, if it comes to it, use protection. It only takes 1 time to get Syphillis, HPV, HIV, Herpes, etc... and it only takes ONE time to get pregnant, then, like it or not, you are tied to him for life, as well as the trials and tribulations of babies raising babies.
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