I have been with my partner for 7 1/2 years. He's was my first boyfriend, first kiss. We starting dating when we were 16yrs old, three days after we met (had mutual friends). Obviously we get along well, he proposed two years ago, so we are engaged. People will probably say I have 7yr itch but I'm just scared, eventual divorce is my worst nightmare. The problem is I love my animals, am very outdoorsy, volunteer a lot, would love to NOT have a tv, I love the internet because there is so much information to learn, I paint and draw, I go on adventures around the country and overseas alone. He sits in his room all day (not exagerating) playing video games, watching entire series of shows in one sitting, gets really angry at the dog if he pesters him to play ball when he's gaming, he quit uni because he was so intimidated by being around so many new people, he hasn't been on a holiday since his parents took him when he was 8. He works at night but doesn't even come out of his room to socialise when other people ARE home. I also feel he 'humours' me when I talk about what I really love, I know it doesn't interest him, but I am a passionate person. When we first started 'dating' I didn't see him for three months, he said it was because he didn't think it would 'work out anyway' because I was a christian (he's only ever known the scary strict ones), he believes in a grater power but not sure what it is. We happened to see each other in a supermarket and started dating properly. After a year and a half I got annoyed that sometimes he would make any contact for a week or so. He got a bit better. At 3 years we went to america with his family for a month, came back and I didn't hear from him for TWO WEEKS. Every time his parents go away I'll go live with him (he invites me). Every time mine go away i invite him and I get "maybe, depends on my mood". Or complains it take too long to get to his work from my house (15min drive!). He is a VERY moody individual. If I do stay over or he stays here for a few days, I won't see him for at least a week after. Eg this time, II stayed at his house 4 days, then didn't see him for 1 1/2 weeks till my parents had been away for a few days, then he comes when I invite many people over for a games night. Yesterday I asked if he were going to stay tonight as well, he said maybe, tonight I wait around for an answer.... nothing, he's not coming. I don't know why I get my hopes up. If I ever complain he says 'don't worry we'll live together soon'... which in my mind sounds like he'll spend more time with me when he has to. I have kinda broken up with him twice, mainly because it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me/the moodiness/selfishness. (We had a big bushfire and basically the whole community got together to help people evacuate, he got annoyed and just stayed at home gaming,....) He gets really good again and I change my mind. I understand his work makes him tired a lot of the time. We only see each other one or two days a week. I've also had pets put down, he 'leaves me alone to get over it' for about two weeks... I lost my job in feb this year, had THREE MONTHS off! Expressed I was lonely and bored but no... same old routine.. I thought if ever he would take advantage of spending time with me then would be the perfect time. I always organise what we do, he never cares, he'd be happy playing his video games in his room all day. We have come back from shopping once and he jumped straight onto the computer, I had nothing to do so waited... two HOURS later I was at the end of my rope, packed up my things and my dog said bye and stormed out. All he said was "Ok" he hadn't even NOTICED!! Also I always invite myself over, I invite him over he NEVER initiates, when I give him space to organize something I don't hear from him for weeks... I love him but I don't think I want to. I don't want to have wasted all this time. He can make me so happy so easily but can bring me down hard when he's in a bad mood. Which he often does when we go out anywhere he is slightly uncomfortable... I feel like a babysitter. I realised my engaged friends see each other almost every day... and shift workers are among them. My parents don't really like him because of all this, some of my friends say I can do better, even the one who introduced us is concerned... I don't know what to do... I don't want to hurt him again... I don't know what will make me happy... Most of all I don't want to make a big mistake. anyone who sat through all of this. thankyou for reading, maybe I'm just being a scared crazy girl... sorry. I love being anonymous on this site!