well..one thing that might help her wake up is...sit her down and nicely explain to her what it is "exactly" that you want..AND what you are willing to DO/PAY to get it...and then...IF she still dosent want to budge...THEN explain to her that..your house is going up for sale...so, you can buy more land and do what you want with it...
...thats what i'd do...i wouldnt fight with her and make bad feelings......just worry about yourselves...if you want more land...go buy it somewheres else...best of luck to you!...
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