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Thank you.
I was not avoiding posting for fear of failure really, I just feel really useless lately, I have had some problems with arthritis, and some severe pain problems not associated directly with the arthritis.
You know sometimes you just feel like a whinger, which I am not doing, i am just really working on my latest puzzle which is me.... but I am concerned not to be seen as a moaning minnie, or someone looking for an excuse. I am really interested in your views.
It is interesting to read your reponse, and I thank you for that. lol.... I sat in bed last night thinking about my own reasoning.
I have anxiety based OCD as far as I am aware. I feel as if I have been anxious since birth. But that is not true. But yes I am a very anxious person. That is something that has always been there, but was mildin childhood, and has grown. lol.... as a child I had horrific nightmares, and also had secret plans for the future, probably because my parents were not happy. I lived out of a weekend case at one point where I kept clothes that I approved of, even making my own things, and also my poetry books. Things my mother bought I would hang in the wardrobe. I dreamed of escaping to an attic and living with tea chests and old stools.
I am not socially inept, I know how to behave and I am very conservative with a small c, I am really quite old fashioned in my outlook, but at the same time I am liberal when dealing with the world and with people. But social interactions invariably hurt.
I agree completely with Okiemommy:
"First, I feel especially in my own circumstances, that it is better to have a diagnosis, than to go through life wondering why in the world everyone else gets things, but I don't. It's a terribly confusing way to live, and the rammifications of "not getting it when everyone else does" are more than just not getting it. There can be a lot of shame and stigma attached to living life in a bubble of misunderstanding or just plain not getting social situations. It definitely was like that for me, and now that I know what is going on with me, I have measures that I can take to make life better. I have tools to use, to navigate social sitations, and in the times when I can't figure out what's going on, I don't feel ashamed because I know why I don't get it."
I do get really hurt when people I have known for a very long time clearly do not have a clue who I am or what I stand for. I care a great deal about people, will do all I can to help anyone, but because I AM obviously not able to clearly communicate properly, I am frequently misunderstood. This has resulted in my withdrawal from people.
I stay at home, communicate only with people online really, and I sometimes meet up with my friends from India, when I can finally feel like a real person.
I guess, yes I have a problem and I am trying to work it out here, tests are not that easily available for adults here, but having a diagnosis would maybe offer some explanations.
Reading so many of the posts here I can identify with what is being said about behaviour and responses, and mainly how people feel.
My inability to relate to people has caused a great deal of pain in the past and has led to me isolating myself. Knowing that I can relate to animals much easier that to people, I am happy with my dog and my chickens, but at some point I have to relate to the outside world.
So I am grateful to read your response, and thank you all for your honesty about what you have dealt with for yourselves and your children.
many thanks,
Jena.
Thank you.
I was not avoiding posting for fear of failure really, I just feel really useless lately, I have had some problems with arthritis, and some severe pain problems not associated directly with the arthritis.
You know sometimes you just feel like a whinger, which I am not doing, i am just really working on my latest puzzle which is me.... but I am concerned not to be seen as a moaning minnie, or someone looking for an excuse. I am really interested in your views.
It is interesting to read your reponse, and I thank you for that. lol.... I sat in bed last night thinking about my own reasoning.
I have anxiety based OCD as far as I am aware. I feel as if I have been anxious since birth. But that is not true. But yes I am a very anxious person. That is something that has always been there, but was mildin childhood, and has grown. lol.... as a child I had horrific nightmares, and also had secret plans for the future, probably because my parents were not happy. I lived out of a weekend case at one point where I kept clothes that I approved of, even making my own things, and also my poetry books. Things my mother bought I would hang in the wardrobe. I dreamed of escaping to an attic and living with tea chests and old stools.
I am not socially inept, I know how to behave and I am very conservative with a small c, I am really quite old fashioned in my outlook, but at the same time I am liberal when dealing with the world and with people. But social interactions invariably hurt.
I agree completely with Okiemommy:
"First, I feel especially in my own circumstances, that it is better to have a diagnosis, than to go through life wondering why in the world everyone else gets things, but I don't. It's a terribly confusing way to live, and the rammifications of "not getting it when everyone else does" are more than just not getting it. There can be a lot of shame and stigma attached to living life in a bubble of misunderstanding or just plain not getting social situations. It definitely was like that for me, and now that I know what is going on with me, I have measures that I can take to make life better. I have tools to use, to navigate social sitations, and in the times when I can't figure out what's going on, I don't feel ashamed because I know why I don't get it."
I do get really hurt when people I have known for a very long time clearly do not have a clue who I am or what I stand for. I care a great deal about people, will do all I can to help anyone, but because I AM obviously not able to clearly communicate properly, I am frequently misunderstood. This has resulted in my withdrawal from people.
I stay at home, communicate only with people online really, and I sometimes meet up with my friends from India, when I can finally feel like a real person.
I guess, yes I have a problem and I am trying to work it out here, tests are not that easily available for adults here, but having a diagnosis would maybe offer some explanations.
Reading so many of the posts here I can identify with what is being said about behaviour and responses, and mainly how people feel.
My inability to relate to people has caused a great deal of pain in the past and has led to me isolating myself. Knowing that I can relate to animals much easier that to people, I am happy with my dog and my chickens, but at some point I have to relate to the outside world.
So I am grateful to read your response, and thank you all for your honesty about what you have dealt with for yourselves and your children.
many thanks,
Jena.