I have read through this thread and tried very hard not comment.
But I have failed.
I want to ask a question and then tell you a story, I will try to make it short, but would like your opinion.
The question is do you think that HFA could come about as a result of environmental causes? lol....No, I am not talking about global warming or anything, but about isolation in childhood.
I had never heard of autism or the autistic spectrum when growing up. But I am a difficult person, I do know that, and it has been painful not being understood.
I grew up living in the countryside, and apart from my mother, and occasionally my father whoworked away a lot, I was very solitary.
I recited poetry at 3 years old, and at 4 I had to go to school. We had moved then to a populated area and I had problems making friends.
before this my play buddies had been chickens and ducks and lambs, and my pet border collie. I was not keen on children.
I grew up, not doing well in school although I was clever, I just didn't fit in. I liked long clothes instead of short, and I saw no need for drugs, when I could comtemplate a flower or a sky or an animal.
I worked, and had little choice, I was told to get to work, and I went, I did accounts and gravitated to Accountancy and credit control, mainly because I would search through mountains of documents until I had all the answers and could put things right. I left the business world aged 43 because I did not like the way thigns were going. there was no commitment to good practice any more, it was all about the bottom line, no real customer service as long as you were fleecing them.
I went to work in a nursing home with elderly and terminally ill people and studied during the day.
I gained a degree and a PGCE teaching qualification, but still I do not fit in. I am fine out in fields with a group of archaeologists, or in the library researching history.
But I have worked as an advocate supporting asylum seekers and refugees and finally disabled people. I worked in 2 ways, dealignwith my clients and their needs and also dealing with politicians and service providers to change the "system".
Sorry this is long you will see why.
Then I met my sister. We had grown up apart and are half sisters sharing a dad. We are now very close as all the parents and adopted parents are gone.
She has a son who is diagnosed as having Asperger's syndrome, and it has caused a lot of problems with her partner.
In order to help them out at one time I took along a standard diagnostic test for Autism, as I had told my sister that I felt it was not her son that had the problem it was in fact her husband. Inorder to alay his fears I did the test first, surprisingly I had a very high score, her son scored way down the list, and she was about half way. her husband surpassed my score by 2 points. We were the ones with HFA, not her son.
I had not done the test before, had never seen it, and I was actually quite benused after I had done it. I had instinctively known about the Husband son situation, and have felt the same in many situations in the past. But somehow for myself it was like a lightbulb moment. Ohhh that is why I am odd....
I also have close friends from another culture, India, and they are the only people I have found that really have potential to understand me, my morals, my responses to the world.
Apart from them who I communicate with mainly online, and occasionally when we visit, as they all live in London and India, I am still as solitary as I was aged 3. I have 2 sons but they both admit they have great difficulty in understanding me.
lol... I have even researched my numerology and I am a 7. the person who would still be reading the book while the library burns around them. I have been told I am deep, when I think I am very easy and simple to understand.
I do puzzles... love puzzles like sudoku, Mah Jong, and number puzzles, where you have to work out the letters that relate to the numbers. I am well into patterns and I knit complex designs.
I also have OCD, even about the order in which I eat my food, get dressed, and work. I was told oncethat I looked shifty because I did not make eye contact, by a close associate I may say, so I practiced and started looking people in the eye and was then told I was scary.
I just can't work people out at all I do not get the signals.
I am so sorry this is long, butwouldlike you opinions everyone.
I do have a high IQ, and I study everything, absolutely everything.
I sometimes wonder if it could be due to my isolation as a child. Autism was not known then, they only discovered plate techtonics when I was in Grammar School.
But I have failed.

I want to ask a question and then tell you a story, I will try to make it short, but would like your opinion.
The question is do you think that HFA could come about as a result of environmental causes? lol....No, I am not talking about global warming or anything, but about isolation in childhood.
I had never heard of autism or the autistic spectrum when growing up. But I am a difficult person, I do know that, and it has been painful not being understood.
I grew up living in the countryside, and apart from my mother, and occasionally my father whoworked away a lot, I was very solitary.
I recited poetry at 3 years old, and at 4 I had to go to school. We had moved then to a populated area and I had problems making friends.
before this my play buddies had been chickens and ducks and lambs, and my pet border collie. I was not keen on children.
I grew up, not doing well in school although I was clever, I just didn't fit in. I liked long clothes instead of short, and I saw no need for drugs, when I could comtemplate a flower or a sky or an animal.
I worked, and had little choice, I was told to get to work, and I went, I did accounts and gravitated to Accountancy and credit control, mainly because I would search through mountains of documents until I had all the answers and could put things right. I left the business world aged 43 because I did not like the way thigns were going. there was no commitment to good practice any more, it was all about the bottom line, no real customer service as long as you were fleecing them.
I went to work in a nursing home with elderly and terminally ill people and studied during the day.
I gained a degree and a PGCE teaching qualification, but still I do not fit in. I am fine out in fields with a group of archaeologists, or in the library researching history.
But I have worked as an advocate supporting asylum seekers and refugees and finally disabled people. I worked in 2 ways, dealignwith my clients and their needs and also dealing with politicians and service providers to change the "system".
Sorry this is long you will see why.
Then I met my sister. We had grown up apart and are half sisters sharing a dad. We are now very close as all the parents and adopted parents are gone.
She has a son who is diagnosed as having Asperger's syndrome, and it has caused a lot of problems with her partner.
In order to help them out at one time I took along a standard diagnostic test for Autism, as I had told my sister that I felt it was not her son that had the problem it was in fact her husband. Inorder to alay his fears I did the test first, surprisingly I had a very high score, her son scored way down the list, and she was about half way. her husband surpassed my score by 2 points. We were the ones with HFA, not her son.
I had not done the test before, had never seen it, and I was actually quite benused after I had done it. I had instinctively known about the Husband son situation, and have felt the same in many situations in the past. But somehow for myself it was like a lightbulb moment. Ohhh that is why I am odd....
I also have close friends from another culture, India, and they are the only people I have found that really have potential to understand me, my morals, my responses to the world.
Apart from them who I communicate with mainly online, and occasionally when we visit, as they all live in London and India, I am still as solitary as I was aged 3. I have 2 sons but they both admit they have great difficulty in understanding me.
lol... I have even researched my numerology and I am a 7. the person who would still be reading the book while the library burns around them. I have been told I am deep, when I think I am very easy and simple to understand.
I do puzzles... love puzzles like sudoku, Mah Jong, and number puzzles, where you have to work out the letters that relate to the numbers. I am well into patterns and I knit complex designs.
I also have OCD, even about the order in which I eat my food, get dressed, and work. I was told oncethat I looked shifty because I did not make eye contact, by a close associate I may say, so I practiced and started looking people in the eye and was then told I was scary.
I just can't work people out at all I do not get the signals.
I am so sorry this is long, butwouldlike you opinions everyone.
I do have a high IQ, and I study everything, absolutely everything.
I sometimes wonder if it could be due to my isolation as a child. Autism was not known then, they only discovered plate techtonics when I was in Grammar School.