New updates on DH

[OHChick]

so happy your DH is back home with your family. best of luck and prayers for continued progress!

 

[Alleyoops25]

Well DH is laying down for a while he has been having a hard time sleeping (which keeps me up as well). The kids are out playing so they dont wake him up. And I am taking a breather for a while, not that I have actually done much of anything yet. I have been out playing with my poor chickens, and trying to muck out their coop. It wasnt cleaned while we were gone and it was getting pretty gross.They alll were starved for attention to. Or maybe I was starved for theirs. I think the second is probably closer to right. After I fed them they all seemed to wish I would just go away and stop bothering them so that they could eat in piece. And I am thinking today I got my first egg since dec. which is really good.It was my white Cochin that layed it. I hope that the the other few start laying soon. I hated feeding chickens and buying eggs. I am going to have to move and seperate my roos. The majority of them survived and they are fighting over the hens, and then ripping all the feathers off the hens making them naked.
Davy seems to be depressed, he is wooried about all the stuff with his school. He has to file an appeal to try and get our money back or try to at least return next symester. I admitt this has me worried to. It is really going to stink if they wont do either of the above stated. ANd he cant finish, and we will still have to owe a small fortune to them anyway. I also think he is having problems because he has had to face a fact that he is human and wont live forever. He is having a hard time with that. I am really scarred he is going to become to depressed, and not be able to function through from day to day. So thats all the news here for now.I will talk to you all later!

 

[Farmer Kitty]

Alley,

I pray the school cooperates. It's not like he just choose not to attend this semester part way through.

Prayers continue to for your family to help you through this.

 

[Cheryl]

If the college has any sense of decency, they will allow him to start up again on another semester when he is well enough. I think you should get a medical note from his doctor and make an appt with the college and personally walk the note to the proper person. If they say no, call your local tv station, they would most likely get involved if they have a investigative section.

 

[Farmer Kitty]

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I believe medical notes have already been turned in to the college. She had posted on the other thread that was one of the things being done.

 

[megshenhut]

Thanks to God that Davey is home and you are back with your family in your house. Even though it is great to be home, there will be down times because when you return home you tend to want things to be back to normal and they aren't. Depression can be a definite issue for both of you and don't ignore it. It will also be hard on you too at times because you have to do all things there that he can't do yet. That will frustrate him as well. I am speaking from experience because my husband was burned in a fire and in the hospital for 3 weeks many years ago. When he got home, it was great to be there, but also there are additional struggles that you didn't have when he was in the hospital. Remember one day at a time and I'm continuing to pray for you.

 

[ruth]

Hi Alley - I'm so glad to hear God has answered prayers and brought Davy home to his family. I know you said that he had a visit from Jesus and that our Lord told him many things, including some yet to happen. Please have Davy write them down ASAP, word for word as he remembers them. Not necessarily to show anyone, it may be personal forever, but to look back on and remember when he is feeling depressed that God loved him enough to show Himself to him and to reveal things to him. The enemy will try to distort what was said and to make Davy forget them so it is important that he write them down. Whenever he is feeling blue, have him pull out his journal and read what Jesus said and to hold onto that comfort. I'm quite positive the Lord did not tell him to worry about his future. He was given back to his family for a purpose and as an answer to prayers, don't let the enemy steal that from him.

 

[equine chick]

Alley,
It is really common that stroke patients do go through a depression period. Davey has been through a lot, he is young but mortality so to speak has slapped him in the face and it can be hard to deal with. Talk with his doctor about maybe getting him started on antidepression meds. They can do wonders and in most times is temporary. Lexapro is a good med does not have alot of side effects and you can see good results in about 3 weeks. Depression can undermine his progress. Depression really can get to the point that it hurts just to get up in the morning and right now he needs all the strength he can get. Talk to the doctor as well about perhaps a sleeping pill or just give him a benadryl or 1 tylenol pm. Our patients at the hospital who can't have sleepers for some reason or another we give a low dose benadryl and it does the trick. Keep your chin up girl, things will get better. I love watching my chickens, they are so relaxing and very therapeutic. Those eggs will be along before you know it.

 

[cknmom]

I like Ruths idea of the journal, but also have Davy write what his mother said to him also. That might comfort him in times of depression also.

I will keep you all in my prayers, hang in there and it WILL get better in time.

Monica

 

[krturpie]

Alley,

As a supporter and participant of our system of higher education, I hate to say this, but it is clear that college and universities can generate an endless supply of shameless, bureaucratic stupidity - especially if it lines their pockets. If you run into this, always politely press your case further up the hierarchy and do not back down. A letter to the college provost, dean, or president can be helpful. See if you can get Davy's doctor to write it on his behalf. Of course, as folks here have said earlier, document names, statements, and conversations and times.

Seek help with the school's student advocate office if there is one. Although such services are limited to what the school will allow them to do, they can often get you and Davy to the right place faster, rather than run from office to office trying to plead your case over and over.

It also helps to stay on top of the process. It can easily get forgotten in the shuffle and then you hear that it's too late to do anything. Call every day if necessary.

As was mentioned earlier, you should take depression seriously. Let Davy's doctor know about it. I was nearly killed and badly injured in an accident when I was only a few years younger than you and reeled about my newly discovered morality for weeks. I can only imagine what Davy's going through.

K