Nice Girl syndrome... so true

[chickened]

You surprise me Kristy... polygamy was primarily a method of child bearing in its' beginning to increase ones family.

The benefits from 2 parent sticking together for the kids usually outweigh the single approach statistically. Prisons are full of kids from families with no father figure especially gang related people, the biggest reason young men join gangs is lack of a father figure by their own admission.
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actually I think polygamy is ok, for men and women. Polygamy doesn't always equal oppression of women. Just like marriage doesn't always equal oppression of women.

And sticking together for the sake of the kids can cause damage to the children. children pick up a lot more than one might think.

 

[KristyHall]

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actually I think polygamy is ok, for men and women. Polygamy doesn't always equal oppression of women. Just like marriage doesn't always equal oppression of women.

And sticking together for the sake of the kids can cause damage to the children. children pick up a lot more than one might think.


How does it surprise you? I believe you can love more than one person at once and if you and the other people can come to a healthy agreement about a household dynamics then I see no reason why they shouldn't be able to do such.

also it is largely the culture that has something to do with boys being in prison for not having a father figure. it is far more complicated than that. Many people have no father figures and turn out fine because they were raised to be respectful Also one can be unmarried and still provide a father figure for heir children such as team sports rn by a male coach, good teachers, big brother big sister programs, and so on.

 

[chickened]

I am not defending perverts by no means and I know how a guy can overdo hugging. I am referring to close friends and family like at meetings and get togethers. I have hugged people that feel like a blob no reaction and yes that is clue enough for me but I am a tolerant person and do not get excited about much and am always cautious that I may miss out on someone else's idea of joy so I just let them be themselves and take no offence.

 

[chickened]

You are right they can do all that as a single mother and my hat is off to them but it is easier with a father and any single mother will tell you so.

I really doubt a life in a harem would suit you. Maybe I am wrong.
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How does it surprise you? I believe you can love more than one person at once and if you and the other people can come to a healthy agreement about a household dynamics then I see no reason why they shouldn't be able to do such.

also it is largely the culture that has something to do with boys being in prison for not having a father figure. it is far more complicated than that. Many people have no father figures and turn out fine because they were raised to be respectful Also one can be unmarried and still provide a father figure for heir children such as team sports rn by a male coach, good teachers, big brother big sister programs, and so on.

 

[Nicola]

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Oh no, not to worry i am not taking offence,not at all.
I will greet my Close family members with a hug and stuff, but certain friends i have that i am not close to by all means, overdo the hugging and then get a dumbfounded look on their face when i say I do not like hugs, like it is hard to believe someone doesn't like them.
Its just the forcing of hugs that i don't appreciate, i don't mind a greeting hugs with close friends i haven't seen in ages or Family members i am close to at all as i only usually have to hug them once.

 

[KristyHall]

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How does it surprise you? I believe you can love more than one person at once and if you and the other people can come to a healthy agreement about a household dynamics then I see no reason why they shouldn't be able to do such.

also it is largely the culture that has something to do with boys being in prison for not having a father figure. it is far more complicated than that. Many people have no father figures and turn out fine because they were raised to be respectful Also one can be unmarried and still provide a father figure for heir children such as team sports rn by a male coach, good teachers, big brother big sister programs, and so on.


just because I have no interested in being in a polygamous marriage does not mean I wish to deny that decision from consenting adults. Just like I have no interest in being in a traditional marriage but I won't try and stop someone else from having it. also polygamy does not equal harem/female oppression/child abuse. I support women having multiple husbands or wives just as much as men as long as everyone involve is of legal age and capable of consenting.


it is difficult to be a single parent. I think it is how our society handles the needs of single parents that encourages and/or discourages the risk of a a child growing up to be dysfunctional.

 

[chickened]

Some men do use a hug as a come on, especially in todays society where everything we say is policed.
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Oh no, not to worry i am not taking offence,not at all.
I will greet my Close family members with a hug and stuff, but certain friends i have that i am not close to by all means, overdo the hugging and then get a dumbfounded look on their face when i say I do not like hugs, like it is hard to believe someone doesn't like them.
Its just the forcing of hugs that i don't appreciate, i don't mind a greeting hugs with close friends i haven't seen in ages or Family members i am close to at all as i only usually have to hug them once.

 

[Nicola]

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Oh no, not to worry i am not taking offence,not at all.
I will greet my Close family members with a hug and stuff, but certain friends i have that i am not close to by all means, overdo the hugging and then get a dumbfounded look on their face when i say I do not like hugs, like it is hard to believe someone doesn't like them.
Its just the forcing of hugs that i don't appreciate, i don't mind a greeting hugs with close friends i haven't seen in ages or Family members i am close to at all as i only usually have to hug them once.


Ya, But i have made it Very very clear to that particular person that i am not interested at all, and angrily told them not to invade my space

they don't get it.. Going to have to put my foot down next time...not tolerating it much longer.

I am sure many would do the same if someone wasn't listening to the fact that they don't want their space invaded

 

[KristyHall]

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Oh no, not to worry i am not taking offence,not at all.
I will greet my Close family members with a hug and stuff, but certain friends i have that i am not close to by all means, overdo the hugging and then get a dumbfounded look on their face when i say I do not like hugs, like it is hard to believe someone doesn't like them.
Its just the forcing of hugs that i don't appreciate, i don't mind a greeting hugs with close friends i haven't seen in ages or Family members i am close to at all as i only usually have to hug them once.


that makes no sense

 

[Boyd]

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Ya, But i have made it Very very clear to that particular person that i am not interested at all, and angrily told them not to invade my space

they don't get it.. Going to have to put my foot down next time...not tolerating it much longer.

I am sure many would do the same if someone wasn't listening to the fact that they don't want their space invaded

taser...