Nice Girl syndrome... so true

[KristyHall]

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Ya, But i have made it Very very clear to that particular person that i am not interested at all, and angrily told them not to invade my space

they don't get it.. Going to have to put my foot down next time...not tolerating it much longer.

I am sure many would do the same if someone wasn't listening to the fact that they don't want their space invaded

taser...

rofl

 

[chickened]

Most polygamous situations are 14 15 year old girls with 40 or 50 year old men. Very few women at say 30 will join a harem unless it is some form of cult.I suppose someone can find love in that situation but it most likely will not last but become a slave situation eventually. Love is a singular word and harem or polygamists practice-rs have favorites.
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just because I have no interested in being in a polygamous marriage does not mean I wish to deny that decision from consenting adults. Just like I have no interest in being in a traditional marriage but I won't try and stop someone else from having it. also polygamy does not equal harem/female oppression/child abuse. I support women having multiple husbands or wives just as much as men as long as everyone involve is of legal age and capable of consenting.


it is difficult to be a single parent. I think it is how our society handles the needs of single parents that encourages and/or discourages the risk of a a child growing up to be dysfunctional.

 

[Nicola]

If it were legal here to taser someone and own one here At times i think i would.. But it's not..

drats!

 

[Boyd]

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just because I have no interested in being in a polygamous marriage does not mean I wish to deny that decision from consenting adults. Just like I have no interest in being in a traditional marriage but I won't try and stop someone else from having it. also polygamy does not equal harem/female oppression/child abuse. I support women having multiple husbands or wives just as much as men as long as everyone involve is of legal age and capable of consenting.


it is difficult to be a single parent. I think it is how our society handles the needs of single parents that encourages and/or discourages the risk of a a child growing up to be dysfunctional.


everyone has favorites..

 

[KristyHall]

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just because I have no interested in being in a polygamous marriage does not mean I wish to deny that decision from consenting adults. Just like I have no interest in being in a traditional marriage but I won't try and stop someone else from having it. also polygamy does not equal harem/female oppression/child abuse. I support women having multiple husbands or wives just as much as men as long as everyone involve is of legal age and capable of consenting.


it is difficult to be a single parent. I think it is how our society handles the needs of single parents that encourages and/or discourages the risk of a a child growing up to be dysfunctional.


that can be argued for most marriages world wide, at least historically. also multiple partner relationships is far more common than you might think. Polyamori means many loves and there are many people who practice it because they can't legally marry each other.

still by legalizing and regulating it ( legal adults only, all people in said marriage must sign agreement. it would work just fine.)

 

[BlackBart]

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the trick is to find a nice guy. So often nice girls end up with not nice guys. They are nice until the girl marries them.

 

[KristyHall]

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the trick is to find a nice guy. So often nice girls end up with not nice guys. They are nice until the girl marries them.

it is terrible when that happens. some people feel their spouse is their possession or that their spouse is there purely to help or serve THEM.

*shudders*

 

[Dunkopf]

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I don't think there would be too many. By 50 an unmarried person is pretty set in their ways and would have a difficult time adjusting to someone else sharing all aspects of their life. I've seen it in a lot of guys. As long as they can get gratification physically they don't really need someone to share the rest of their life with.

On the other hand most guys that get divorced or widowed remarry quickly. Women on the other hand seem to be better at living on their own after a divorce or death of a spouse.

A good relationship requires a 2 way street. Abusive spouses are always one way street people. I think marriage has fallen out of popularity because of 3 reasons. 1st and primary reason is that we are a much more selfish society than we used to be. The me 1st attitude is epidemic. 2nd is the fact that you are no longer shunned by society for pre marital sex. 3rd is birth control, women are no longer chained to a crib and don't need men anymore to support them while they stay at home barefoot and pregnant.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

Other cultures have not just polygamous systems, but polyandrous too. These can be perfectly capable of being between adults who are not a member of any type of any cult. They also exist for reasons other than producing more children. Resource sharing and care, economics, and social status can have more to do with it in some areas where it is a norm. I realize it is an illegal and thus uncommon marriage system within the states, and that the media has more interest in portraying the typical child bride stories, but that is not a direct result or an aspect of bigamy in itself.

In America, I more commonly see "open marriages" where both spouses are married, but openly allow the other to have multiple relationships. But what I see most often are 'monogamous' relationships in the US that are....well, not. I also see plenty of monogamous marriages where love is not a component (and where this can work out just fine when both spouses realize and desire this), and where adults claim to love their children more than each other, have a favorite child, fall in love with people other than their spouse even if they do love their spouse, etc, so many people seem to have favorites or love outside of the singular form in general.

Nicola, you should hang with my husband. He hates hugs, and only accepts them from myself and his family. I'm not too fond of them myself (other than my husband), but I allow friends to hug me, and they probably don't even know that I do not derive enjoyment from said hugs and merely find them to be a sweet gesture that I tolerate from some. XD The thing that really gets me is the creepy arm rub some males I can clearly observe treating females in less than respectful ways try to pull on me (but strangely...only when my husband isn't around...hmmm.....).

But yes, your body, your preferences.

 

[Nicola]

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Yeah family and Close friends are about the only ones that can get away with it really, anyone else and i politely tell them once i don't like hugs.. then i get grumpy

My brother is the same as me

especially when his big sister(me) threatens to hug him

but i never do

People should respect other peoples wishes if they don't want their space invaded.