Now I remember why I have not had friends for a long time!!!!!!

[kimisfishing]

I will still do things but not with these people, I have other people I can do things with I just really thought these were "GOOD" friends

 

[kuntrygirl]

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Well good thing you found out early on into the friendship and not when it was too late and they really hurt you.

 

[kimisfishing]

we have been freinds for 2 years but I am not as hurt as MAD at myself for hanging on so long,I am good cause I have you guys

 

[FrizzlesRule]

I know people who are nothing but users, but will say they are friends. I'd rather be a recluse than be used. I love helping people, but when I need help, are they around?.............NO. They make up some exucuse to blow me off.

My only true frineds are my bantams.

 

[Dar]

wow and here i thought i was the only one...

i have like 2 friends..

I dont buy my friends things or loan them money.. I dont ask them to help me with things because i always get let down... i dont offer to help with things cause i always get dragged in the middle (like a friends recent divorce she needs help moving this weekend and im not answering my phone.. ex-hubby has threatened to have everyone who helps charged with trespassing. I know he cant because she has givin us permission but to much drama she can hire a moving crew)

I dont like being told i am a retard cause i have chickens and i have to be home by a certain time to close them up for the night

I dont like being the one who does all the travelling.... we have acquaintances that live 90 minutes away.. we used to go at least once a month... then we stopped... and in 2 years they have not come to our place ONCE.. i am not paying the gas all the time

I dont like having the newest electronic fad being thrown in my kids face and when i refuse to buy it for them I am called a stick in the mud..my kids dont need all that garbage

i like being a loner... but sometimes it can be lonely... there is only so much i can hang with DH... he falls asleep at 7pm .. and he has done it in a movie AND concerts.. (U2, Avenge sevenfold, Three days Grace, Seether)

 

[Attila the Hen]

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It makes me feel so sad to read what you have said and it's hard to believe it's true.

Friendship and lonliness can be complicated. There was a time in my life when I found it so hard to make friends and I was so lonely. I was in my 30s then. The more lonely I felt the harder it was to make friends. I'm 57 now.

My experience is that it is difficult to make friends at certain ages when that particular age group is engaged in marrying, raising a family etc. I have a couple of close friends from childhood/high school but we touch base perhaps once a year. Time doesn't seem to change much in our relationships.

In the past 11 years, since moving to GA, I have made 2 very good friends and consider it an unexpected gift. To me friends are like a marriage. It takes time and we have to earn each other's trust.
I value each friend as a special jewell and I don't discuss any friend with another except in the most general terms--like she's doing fine. I don't want there to be problems of jealousy and the like. They have other friends also and again, we don't discuss our other friend's problems--all part of the trust thing.
I truly feel for you and I know you don't deserve such childish treatment. Find one or two true friends who love and understand you. Who needs a crowd? There's no intimacy there.

 

[cravenchx]

They probably see you as a well put together
person, and very scared of you. Move on, girl.
I'll be your friend!

 

[kimisfishing]

I talked to one today and told her I was done with them all. I will not talk to them or make plans. I am fine with it.

 

[cravenchx]

At "our" age, there is no time to play games!
At least not those kind.

 

[artsy1]

I didn't have friends for so many years, like 20 years.
Everyone used me, abused me, etc.
After all this time, I recently started to go to Al-Anon. I now have 2-3 friends in this group of people that seem to really care about me. They want to be around me and I can be myself, I don't have to keep a huge guard up. I feel so blessed for this.
Last night I was with them and I was re-laxed, had a great time. They don't ask me to do them favors, never ask me for money, always show-up,
don't cancel on me....................it's like a miracle.

It took me so long to let anyone near me.
Someday I believe when the time is right, you will find a good friend.
For now just stick with us.