O.K. No more helping "friends"

[Kansaseq]

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If he is suspected of arson, may I ask why you and DH are even speaking to this man, let alone allowing him on your property?

 

[sumi]

No prove, just a strange number of co-incidents. He had a huge fight with the owner of the shed and there was other people involved, but it boiled down to the fight. We tolerate him as we feel sorry for his wife and kid and we're trying to help them. (She's a total sweetheart.) There's a lot more to this situation, a LOT more, but I can't discuss that all here.
We've known this guy for years and we've had dealings with him on and off and mostly it's been o.k. Up 'till now anyway. This chicken thing just p'd me off. He's lazy and want other people, me this time, to do things to make him money. Also he's set this ridiculous deadline for himself, by a certain time he wants so many chickens, so he makes so much money. But I must make it happen. Doesn't work like that. I built my chicken farm up, over time, with support from DH and I learned things from books and this forum. He's not handicapped, he can do it too.
I like the fact that he wants to do something instead of sitting on his backside all day, like he used to, but he needs to do things right.
Basically his attitude is his worst enemy. Fairness and the odd "thank you" would go a long way. At the moment it's all about him. I'm hoping he'd learn something from this.
I'll try and talk sense into him when he's ready to listen, but I'm not going to be taken advantage off.

 

[frostbite]

Seriously, you are NOT going to be able to fix him. And I know you feel sorry for his dear wife and kids, but she picked him, so she's probably got issues of her own. If he's dangerous to her, it's going to be her job to take her kids and get somewhere safe.

Distance is good. Winning an argument may make you feel like a winner, but against someone like him, what do you prove? You want to be known for being smarter than an idiot? The safest thing for you and your sanity is to let it go, be polite, say no thank you, and stay the heck out of his way. Don't let him live in your head. He can't get in there without your permission.

Try the Serenity prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and especially the wisdom to know the difference.

Wishing you peace.

 

[zzGypsy]

seriously, why are you even discussing helping him get any chicks at all?

after his throwing the live chick to the pigs, after what you've said about how you believe he'll treat them (not in a way you approve of), WHY would you help him hatch more chicks?

it's not even a question of if you're going to be fairly compensated... he's going to abuse them, why do anything to help him get more birds?

I wouldn't want any action of mine to put living animals in his hands, then I'd share the responsibility of how he ultimately treats them. JMO, but I'd be on the porch with my 12 gauge loaded with rock salt for the next time he comes by.

 

[LiLRedCV]

There just comes a time when you have to think about just you and your family - not others and their problems. He's making HIS problems YOUR problems. You don't need that. Step away. Now. It'll do more for your mental health and the safety of your family than you'll ever know.