Sadly, your husband is very realistic. This is a real issue where I live. Even the news will issue warnings to people to keep all their pets inside, especially black cats.
Thank you. I don't want to be paranoid because my cat loves going out, but I also want the best for him. My husband and I grew up in different parts of the country, so our experiences are different. What is safe some places, certainly may not be others. Also as an adult having met many people in my life from around the world I'm realizing how sheltered my childhood was and how homogeneous our community was. There are many cultures and races and religions that I was oblivious to as a child. Whether others are extremists or mentally unsound or simply practice a different religion with different rituals, the fact of the matter is that people are unpredictable and we all do what we can to keep our pets and friends and family safe.
So that being said, I hope all reading this have a happy and safe holiday season, whatever holidays you partake in (I know there are quite a few coming up for many cultures/religions).