Office Work, Part Deux: Professional Mayhen

[sparkles2307]

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Hmmm whats it like being the parent of grown kids? I must say that I'm not really impressed with certain parental parties of mine these days who seem to have a really weird parenting thing going on

 

[jbowyer01]

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Hmmm whats it like being the parent of grown kids? I must say that I'm not really impressed with certain parental parties of mine these days who seem to have a really weird parenting thing going on

Instead of telling them no they cant do something. I can tell them its your decision all I can do is give you advise when you ask me. Its been hard to let them fall when they make a stupid decision. I still want to keep them home sometime and not let the world hurt them. They do come to me for honest advise, which makes me feel good.

 

[saddina]

Morning beautiful people. I've brought espresso and cream with me.

Busy day planned, kids start lessons in 1/2 hour so that'll have me tied up for ~ 3 hours, then 4 batches of wedding soap to do today, and 2 birthday orders, all needs to go out by friday.

 

[saddina]

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Hmmm whats it like being the parent of grown kids? I must say that I'm not really impressed with certain parental parties of mine these days who seem to have a really weird parenting thing going on

Instead of telling them no they cant do something. I can tell them its your decision all I can do is give you advise when you ask me. Its been hard to let them fall when they make a stupid decision. I still want to keep them home sometime and not let the world hurt them. They do come to me for honest advise, which makes me feel good.

You're doing it right, my parents are still paying the way for my 23 yr old sister, she's dove off the deep end, has had like 5 "fiancees" (they stay till they realize she's nuts, or she runs off with the next one). She's been given everything a girl could possiably want, worked for none of it, and now no one can satisfy the consumer-monster she's become. Latest piece of joy? she dropped out her senior year of college, and since my parents co signed, guess who's stuck with an 90k+ bill for it all? My 11 year old s more independant that she is, at twice his age.

 

[jbowyer01]

It was easier with my daughter (still is). She's very level headed and makes extremely good choices. My DS on the other hand has to learn by always having the brick wall fall on him. I think sensibility has finally given in though. He's joining the Army and goes to basic in a couple of weeks. That was a hard hard hard thing to let him decide. He's my baby. I wasnt able to have anymore children after him. I need to go and borrow one of y'all for a week or two LOL and spoil them rotten then send them home.

 

[mclevinson]

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Like the gal on Scary Mommy (thats a lot McFly) that said every morning she muscles thru the hissing hormones to give her teenaged daughter a kiss goodbye and then flips the bird two handed at her once the door is shut? Sometimes I want to do that.

I DID do that with SS, after he mistakenly sent me a text complaining about his B*tchA** Stepmom. I distinctly remember feeling as though on the other side of the door the gesture was returned!

 

[sparkles2307]

As a grandparent, one of the perks for not killing your teenagers is spoiling their kids then sending them home. However, your kids might have rules, such as no soda - no lighting matches - no brainrotting cartoons such as spongebob.... you get the idea. Do you, as the grandparent respect these rules/requests from your daughter or do you just roll your eyes and say "when they're at my house its my rules and if I want to give your 6 yo an entire can of mt.Dew that is my right." ?

discuss.

 

[Boyd]

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I had that issue come up once with my x IL's... basically said that was Bravo Sierra, and they are my kids, my rules or you can mosey yer arses back up north for disrespecting me, my wife and my family. I say no cow and chicken, no ice cream, I mean it!

 

[saddina]

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My kid, my rules period, my mother did not see her grandchildren for 2 years after violating them, we live 20 minutes away.

Now this may make you wince, but my mother dies not get to see my children unsupervised. She's not a pedophile, but she's critical and harsh, and has made my deaf son feel miserable for "not paying attention" (he reads lips, if he's not looking at you he didn't understand, and talking to the back of his head is pointless). Same son is on a superrestrictive diet, he's allergic to wheat, corn, chicken eggs (we have quail), no food dyes or artificial flavorings, no yeast products, her take is that feeding him these things would "cure" his allergies (celiacs have a simple cure, no friggen wheat). So his rules are firm, and she's shown she'll ignore them, so she doesn't get to see them unless I or another party is there.

 

[sparkles2307]

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I had that issue come up once with my x IL's... basically said that was Bravo Sierra, and they are my kids, my rules or you can mosey yer arses back up north for disrespecting me, my wife and my family. I say no cow and chicken, no ice cream, I mean it!

Yeah.

Well, it should be that easy for me. But its not.

My mom just sneaks it and then my kids blab. Then she promises to be good and then sneaks it again.

She knows the requests I have. She just doesnt care. It amazes me that she thinks she is a better parent than I am, when she thought it was a good idea to teach my 4yo how to strike matches. WTH?

Now I am at the point of just wanting to withdraw and cease all contact/interaction. But we live so close, go to the same church, etc and I don't think its fair to my boys to take grandma away.....

ETA: we wont get into the issues I and DH have with her husband.