Office Work, Part Deux: Professional Mayhen

[saddina]

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Because the system will leave a kid with a mother like that until she truly damages or injures him and somebody manages to get the authorities to notice.

Yep... because bad parenting isn't reportable. I could call 20 times about a mother who dating controlling men who took an unusuial amount of intrest in thier daughters from day 1, and untill something truly awful happened there was nothing to be done. New boyfriend of 4 days wants to pick the kid up early and take her home hours before mom gets off work and they're alone? if mom signed the form he could pick her up that was all I was alloud to do, never mind that the guy gave off every creepy vibes ever, was often veribally abusive to the adults and the child was clearly afraid of him, the paper was signed. Sadly the mom married this guy and the girl now has al sortd of therapy, special ed etc, less than 6 months later she was not the same child.

 

[saddina]

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Oh Bows, he'll be okay. I bet he does really well there.

I have to say that all the discouraging, heart-rending problems with raising children that I read about here make me so relieved that I passed on motherhood. But then again, I also don't have adorable little faces to photograph and brag about and be proud of. And who will push my wheelchair when I'm old and cranky(er).

Mine keep asking when i'm switching to an electric model, so .....

 

[NellaBean]

I might dislike children in general but I could see myself someday taking in a foster kid or something. I just have a bleeding heart. Some poor NICE child someday who is in need may make me bite the bullet. But not anytime soon......

 

[saddina]

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Worst part is that my kids are NOT that naughty! But they are simple farm kids and if some sneaky bully tells them to "go pinch that kid over there" they will do it...

My DS was the biggest kid so you was always pinpointed and blamed for things. After a while he said he'd do bad things because he was gonna be blamed for them anyway. I cried when he said that.

And you just summed up my issues with my mother in 1 sentice! Except my indiscretions were a bit more carnal in nature.

 

[debilorrah]

I called Ken because he left before me this morning; his friend picked him up to to go to the college to walk. I asked if he had the entire $14 in cash that we have to our name. Yes, he says, I do. If you come home from work and make me lunch, you can pick it up. Listen here buddy, I am not wasting gas to drive back home, you can make your own lunch, and while you are it, please empty the dishwasher.

 

[saddina]

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I wish.

Its difficult because we go to church with her, her daughter used to babysit for me, and she lives like 2 houses from my mom.

I hate small towns.

I asked my old daycare lady if she ever notices my kids being bad when they do drop in with her and she said abosultely not. My kids tell me every day how much they hate it at the current daycare so I guess there are a lot of small things all adding up to make this big mess.

In a tiny town like this one tho, you don't get on the bad side of the pillars of the community. Hence my crying all night last night and all morning today. She could easily pass it around town that my kids are possessed or something and no daycare would ever take them again.

I ran a preschool for years... you better believe that many of the darlings of a daycare provider were rotten bullies. many of the "problem children (it always started with XXXX must have ADHD....

i'm sorry but running a daycare doesn't make you qualified to diagnose). A good teacher will take you kid when they walk in the door as a person, not a file someone dropped on them. Shop for a new care provider and be honest... "at the last center there was a bot who would tell them to misbehave, being the trusting souls they are, they boys did as they were asked, we spoke to them about thinking thru our actions, but you may want to keep an eye out for this pattern" that tells them that you aknowledge that your kids got in trouble, but that it's due to them being somewhat guilable, and you're addressing it. When you kid comes home and tells you "billy made me do..." he's giving a clue that there's something he feels you need to know, trick is to filter out those bits from the chatter about dinosaurs being green.

 

[sparkles2307]

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I wish.

Its difficult because we go to church with her, her daughter used to babysit for me, and she lives like 2 houses from my mom.

I hate small towns.

I asked my old daycare lady if she ever notices my kids being bad when they do drop in with her and she said abosultely not. My kids tell me every day how much they hate it at the current daycare so I guess there are a lot of small things all adding up to make this big mess.

In a tiny town like this one tho, you don't get on the bad side of the pillars of the community. Hence my crying all night last night and all morning today. She could easily pass it around town that my kids are possessed or something and no daycare would ever take them again.

I ran a preschool for years... you better believe that many of the darlings of a daycare provider were rotten bullies. many of the "problem children (it always started with XXXX must have ADHD....

i'm sorry but running a daycare doesn't make you qualified to diagnose). A good teacher will take you kid when they walk in the door as a person, not a file someone dropped on them. Shop for a new care provider and be honest... "at the last center there was a bot who would tell them to misbehave, being the trusting souls they are, they boys did as they were asked, we spoke to them about thinking thru our actions, but you may want to keep an eye out for this pattern" that tells them that you aknowledge that your kids got in trouble, but that it's due to them being somewhat guilable, and you're addressing it. When you kid comes home and tells you "billy made me do..." he's giving a clue that there's something he feels you need to know, trick is to filter out those bits from the chatter about dinosaurs being green.

That is exactly how I feel about it. I did a phone interview with a potential daycare lady over my lunch break since I was just told last night at 8:30 that I need to find a new center. I told her that they get a little wild and they are guilable so will do what other kids tell them to and she said she can handle it. Problem is, can't start them til Monday and I don't want my kids back at the other daycare for the rest of this week.... not after her tone in the last text regarding her pet being so innocent.

 

[saddina]

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We had been in the foster to adopt program for teens (which i know is 6 shades of crazy), but we live in a fairly conservitive county (read that to say large swaths of the population attend fairly strich churches, ok?), and many kids were being thrown out by parents, for being gay. Which matthew and I have no issues with. Sadly with the busted leg we don't have enough income on paper to prove we can afford it (nevermind that our 2 kids have abundant amounts of just about everything from food, to rooms to amusement park passes, the paper doesn't take savings and budgeting into consideration).

 

[saddina]

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I ran a preschool for years... you better believe that many of the darlings of a daycare provider were rotten bullies. many of the "problem children (it always started with XXXX must have ADHD....

i'm sorry but running a daycare doesn't make you qualified to diagnose). A good teacher will take you kid when they walk in the door as a person, not a file someone dropped on them. Shop for a new care provider and be honest... "at the last center there was a bot who would tell them to misbehave, being the trusting souls they are, they boys did as they were asked, we spoke to them about thinking thru our actions, but you may want to keep an eye out for this pattern" that tells them that you aknowledge that your kids got in trouble, but that it's due to them being somewhat guilable, and you're addressing it. When you kid comes home and tells you "billy made me do..." he's giving a clue that there's something he feels you need to know, trick is to filter out those bits from the chatter about dinosaurs being green.

That is exactly how I feel about it. I did a phone interview with a potential daycare lady over my lunch break since I was just told last night at 8:30 that I need to find a new center. I told her that they get a little wild and they are guilable so will do what other kids tell them to and she said she can handle it. Problem is, can't start them til Monday and I don't want my kids back at the other daycare for the rest of this week.... not after her tone in the last text regarding her pet being so innocent.

Also, i'm a firm believer that boys need to build and smush and do all of those hands on things. For most boys they need to sit and be quiet and still all day, so after school they must get that physical tension out. for boys' behavior boredom is lethial, that's when they dream up things to keep themselves busy

 

[mclevinson]

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Totally stole that one for FB.

Hey! You're not on my facebook...why aren't you on my facebook? Are you on all the other ow peep's facebook...that's it...i'mma hunt you down...

Come and friend me! Sent you a PM