Office Work.......

[wegotchickens]

g, make copies of photos of you doing things with the kids over the years. Pics that make it clear that YOU are the only parent the girls have known for YEARS. But make sure you have a second set, in case he gets pissy and tries to take them (the judge may confiscate them if the ex gets ugly enough).

Do not get scared. Hold your head up and stand your ground. Be ready to tell the judge that you aren't opposed to the x seeing the kids, just the length of time involved since these are very young children and he's been a stranger to them for so long.

Another thing, but this costs more in legal fees, and I can't remember the exact name, but here's a set of questions the lawyers can ask, and the answers are written up for the judge, about how to handle different developmental situations. It can help show the amount of thought put into parenting and decision-making.

Take deep breaths, and try to relax. Don't let him upset you because it's at THAT point that he wins. He's a bully, so he tries to push everyone around. If you stay calm NO MATTER WHAT then you are winning and he will get meaner. If he does this in front of the judge, the judge will kick his butt. Chant the phrase 'voice of reason' to yourself over and over. This is your goal; To appear as the voice of reason. That will automatically make him look bad.

Your girls need you. They need you to be calm, to be the rock that is safe for them. You can get through this. It will not be easy, and honestly? It will never end. There will always be give and take. But you can do this because you love your girls and they need you to ride this out, and coast into the future with them.

And we're here when you need to scream. But bear in mind this is an open forum and he can read your words. So be careful!!

 

[maple]

I know. Thanks for your words of encouragement.

He doesn't know I spend time on a chicken forum but I heed your words greatly. I've been sitting on so much for the last couple of years and I really did vent here and thought about not at least until it's finalized.

I love my chicken friends. I was able to talk to one friend on the way home and then another shortly when I got home. Then my sis brought me over some soup she made us...beef, noodles, carrots, and onion and talked to me for a lil bit. She went through a divorce and has 3 kids... all grown now...last one has 1 1/2 more years of school but she's been there with figuring out visitation although our circumstances are a bit different with my ex being in the army and being on the coast when i'm in IL.

 

[leserlee]

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Are you still sick? And still watching Dollhouse? I thought you would have finished Season 2 by now.

 

[dacjohns]

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Are you still sick? And still watching Dollhouse? I thought you would have finished Season 2 by now.

Now I have to behave myself. My daughter found me.

Never really quite got well. Dollhouse is almost finished but my mom's Mac computer doesn't want to play Netflix.

Everyone, say hi to my daughter, the mother of two of my grandkids.

 

[wegotchickens]

Hi leserlee,

 

[ibpboo]

Hi leserlee

Maple

and what wegot said

 

[NellaBean]

Sorry G, what a jerk......I'll just sit over here and hope an out of control bus goes down his street soon.

Dacs daughter! Hello!

 

[wegotchickens]

I could NOT fall asleep last night. Last time I let myself look at the clock was 1am. And then suddenly DH was throwing on the closet light at 5:30am. That's 30 minutes ahead of schedule, so I jumped up yelling, "What's wrong? What's wrong??!"
He said, "Nothing Honey, I'm just getting a shirt," as if I'd sounded like an idiot. Which peeved me. I'm already not feeling good, and when I talk I sound like the grumpy lady from 'Monsters, Inc.' So I proceeded to tell him, in my growly old lady voice, exactly how I felt about life in general, and less than 5 hours sleep in particular. He apologized, and rubbed my feet. Told me to go back to sleep and he'd call me at 6:30.

When he called me at 6:30, he said he'd cleaned off a space for the bator

So, of course, I felt extremely motivated to get up, dressed, and do some 'dishes'.

And now I can take away the eggs from the brain-damaged cream hen before the next freeze.
Plus I'll be ready when a lovely box of d'Uccle eggs arrives from MO (hopefully later today).


Although I still feel sick as a dog, and am at work, I am in amazingly good spirits. For the moment....

 

[maple]

yay!!! Daccers natural daughter is here!!! Hello sis!

<g says cuz she ain't "natural."


Thanks everyone and I hope all you sickies get to feelin better soon.

Is it concerning that I don't know what Dollhouse is? And thought Dacs was watching cartoons with his grandkids?


Hey Lori...spaz.

I think it's funny when sleeping people wake up delireous.

 

[NellaBean]

Today was Birthday Bagel Wednesday. I am NOMing on a cinnamon sugar bagel from Panera, slathered in cream cheese.

There was joking in the company wide meeting we had this morning that you shouldn't come to my desk without food......and a SHIELD. One girl said it helps to "throw food through the bars" first. LOL.

Apparently word gets around that I am hateful and mean. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

I have 49 chickens at my house. 3 roosters being given away. 9 other birds sold and waiting for pickup. Which makes room for the 12 olive egger girls I have growing up in a brooder in the garage. The 14 olive egger BOYS are already promised to someone for lunch once they are big enough. I don't count babies in my numbers....so it is really 49 adult chickens, 26 babies.

I do still have 2 hens for sale, but don't expect to sell them anytime soon. Which is okay. My goal was 50 birds. And I now have 49, and after selling a few and keeping babies, I will still have 49.