Office Work.......

[scbatz33]

Dacs......is this how you kill threads? WOW.....I think your technique needs work....

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[Buff Hooligans]

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Yep! Got sensible snuggly hoodie and fleece vest on, fluffy slippers, I'm a happy girl.

 

[Orchid]

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[imagining tonight's dinner table scenario... little chirplings and picky hubby sitting at table with their knives and forks in their grimy little fists, looking up at Orchidpants. Momma Orchidpants calmly walks to cabinet, gets out a can of tuna, calmly walks to table while applying an angelic smile on her red face and sets the can of tuna down in the middle of the table. They look at her and she suddenly remembers! Calmly walks to kitchen drawer, removes can opener and smilingly walks to dinner table and sets in down next to can of tuna. .....scene fades away at this point...]

That could VERY easily happen, Buffy. Except tonight we're having Joe's parents over for supper, so we're having homemade pizza - and I do believe Joe will be in charge of making it.

 

[Orchid]

Batty, maybe it's time for a sit-down with DH? Or, the two of you make a couple of lists, one list of what your goals and "wants" are and one list of shtuff that is really bugging you, then compare and discuss?

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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Okay, just so's we know what you're dealing with, what's his work ethic on a scale of 1 to 5 ("1" being "jes' waitin' on the lottery...")?

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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My gosh man, you all live like barbarians!! Around here you can't build a deck or pick your teeth without visiting three different town committee meetings and knowing whose ring to kiss.

 

[scbatz33]

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Yeah, um, great advice but have to have someone willing to participate. I thought we were heading in an ok direction last week. We had a bit of a talk and things seemed to iron out. He was participating and helping but that lasted all of about 3 days.

Now he's petered out again. I just can't keep doing this. He got the truck stuck the other day and then started ranting and raving how if we didn't have horses then it wouldn't have happened. I told him he's gotten the truck stuck on plenty of occasions that had nothing to do with horses. Then he got mad and stormed off.....

I guess he thinks selling the horses will fix things. Sure, it would be less of a drain on the wallet - my wallet - but it won't fix the fundamental problem of his unemployment, lack of desire to get a job and the resulting lack of his helping with the bills and making things less stressful on me.

Now, we are less than 6 weeks from him going back to Wyoming. He doesn't want to be here. He's made that perfectly clear. He thinks everything will be better out there. But how? We still have the bills and such. That doesn't change. I can't work out there. How will I get anywhere? The cost of living is higher and the rate of pay is lower. I at least have a job with benefits. I have a roof over my head and a place for my birds.

I just dont' know what to do anymore. I just want him to get through this midlife crisis thing and grow up. I almost think things were better when he was drinking. At least then he worked.

 

[scbatz33]

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Okay, just so's we know what you're dealing with, what's his work ethic on a scale of 1 to 5 ("1" being "jes' waitin' on the lottery...")?

he used to be a 5......but since he got back from wyoming he's a -1...he would have to get up and go to the store to buy a ticket to wait on the lottery.

I told him last week I was tired of living with someone who was only here because he had no where else to be. That is exactly how it feels. Like he's just waiting for april to come around so he can go back to his "real " life.

 

[dacjohns]

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Sometimes it works.

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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Babe, hold onto these like life itself. That's your lifeline.

Start from that place and work from there. Your DH is escaping his unhappiness by fantasizing about a place where everything will be alright.