Oh, no, he didn't.

[PotterWatch]

We tend to deal with household issues in a passive-agressive manner as well. Currently the non-arguement is over the bathrooms. We have a person coming to stay the night tomorrow night and needed to clean up the pig-sty (I need to find a kosher-friendly term for that

), we call a house. I volunteered to take on the bathrooms since the living room was full of my husband's stuff that I don't know where to put. He said he would rather do the bathrooms, and all I needed to do with his things was put them in a pile that he would deal with. So of course, his things are still in a pile, in the otherwise clean living room, and one bathroom is half-clean, the other as yet untouched. I have been debating whether or not to leave the bathrooms undone and let him be embarassed about it in front of his company, or go ahead and do it since I would also be embarassed for someone to see the filthy state we usually live in... choices, choices.

 

[Linda in San Diego]

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That strategy has been talked about. The deed doer does the job so badly that the deed asker never asks again. I think it has been published in men's magazines - one of the articles they insist they are buying the mag for.

 

[ninjapoodles]

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If I could contain the mess to that level of compartmentalization, and if it was obviously his? Darn tootin' I'd leave it. Maybe he'll surprise you!

 

[ninjapoodles]

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That strategy has been talked about. The deed doer does the job so badly that the deed asker never asks again. I think it has been published in men's magazines - one of the articles they insist they are buying the mag for.

Bill Cosby has an old, old stand-up routine about it, that he presents as an "instruction manual" for newly married men. I think it's about cooking or cleaning the kitchen--he recommends making lots of noise, breaking something, and asking WHERE every single item is, or where it belongs, until the wife finally gives you up for incompetent and never asks again.

My husband blew it there, because we were in our 30's when we got married (first time for each of us), and he'd lived alone for several years without starving to death or going naked, so I know that he CAN do it. Plus, he has proven that he can cook and clean. I can't quite get him doing laundry the right way, but I don't mind doing that. (If he washes clothes, and they get done, and there are already clothes in the dryer, guess what he does? That's right! He crams the wet clothes in with the already dry ones, and runs the dryer with TWO loads in it!)

 

[pdsavage]

The first time in 11 years my husband did the dishes,last weekend the kids and I where gone come back to no dishes....I did check to see if he was sick...
Wish he would have done it years ago when we had 5 (his ,mine and ours) kids in the house.Now thier is only 2 and they are 13 and 15....
Now he keeps wanting to be in my kitchen.......

 

[ninjapoodles]

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Better late than never, right?

Unless he's getting underfoot!

Has everyone seen those Klondike bar (I think) commercials? Like the one where the guy gets up from the table and puts his plate in the dishwasher, and the wife looks shocked, and the voiceover says something like, "Larry put his dish in the dishwasher without being asked. Give that man a Klondike bar!"

At first blush, I thought that was funny, because it rang true, but then I was like, "Wait--WHAT?" Where is MY prize for putting my dishes in the washer (and then washing them and then putting them away, and for cooking the food that went on them in the first place)? And if you think about it, it's not just sexist toward women, it's insulting toward men, in that the very premise implies that men, in general, are just so slovenly and unintelligent that we must treat them like children and ask them to do even simple things like carry their own stinking plate to the dishwasher, and that if they manage by some miracle to DO something like this, we should reward them much the same way we'd toss a Snausage to a puppy who piddled outside instead of on the rug.

(I think sleeplessness makes me touchy.)

 

[pdsavage]

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Better late than never, right?

Unless he's getting underfoot!

Has everyone seen those Klondike bar (I think) commercials? Like the one where the guy gets up from the table and puts his plate in the dishwasher, and the wife looks shocked, and the voiceover says something like, "Larry put his dish in the dishwasher without being asked. Give that man a Klondike bar!"

At first blush, I thought that was funny, because it rang true, but then I was like, "Wait--WHAT?" Where is MY prize for putting my dishes in the washer (and then washing them and then putting them away, and for cooking the food that went on them in the first place)? And if you think about it, it's not just sexist toward women, it's insulting toward men, in that the very premise implies that men, in general, are just so slovenly and unintelligent that we must treat them like children and ask them to do even simple things like carry their own stinking plate to the dishwasher, and that if they manage by some miracle to DO something like this, we should reward them much the same way we'd toss a Snausage to a puppy who piddled outside instead of on the rug.

(I think sleeplessness makes me touchy.)

That is so true why should he get a reward for doing some he should anyway?No one gives me a klondike bar for mowing the yard and ditch,and with a push mower no less.
Now if he gave birth he might get one.........

 

[Mahonri]

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And you thought it was Gustav that caused the doorbell to keep going on and off.

 

[ninjapoodles]

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OH MY GOSH, you're right! Why didn't I think of that? That is hilarious.

 

[newchickenfamily]

Thanks to you all for my first LOL of the day!! I love both the doorbell AND fern posts from you ninjapoodles!