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[Buckguy20]

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You had better find a place in the country.

 

[poultryand bees]

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I just got back in from feeding poultry and rabbits and trimming nails on rabbits. It feels good to be back in a dry flannel shirt with no rabbit fur all over it and dry sweats instead of wet and muddy jeans.
This rainy weather makes me want to sleep 24/7 and if it weren't for needing to take care of critters, I would do just that.

Being outside for awhile did actually cheer me up. Taking care of the critters is good therapy.

 

[HennyPennies2007]

My Sunday School leader called and she wants me to give a testimony tomorrow about how God has blessed me with grace in this whole deal with getting my mom admitted to the rest home. I told her I would do it... since it does seem to go with the scripture we are studying...the problem is...I don't want to talk about it. I have been hiding out for awhile, staying out of my usual groove simply because I don't want to talk to people about it. I don't think there is anything godly about putting your mom in a nursing home.... at least nothing that seems to be relevant to anyone else but me...plus the fact that I'm really not wholly comfortable with it enough that I think I can do it without starting to cry.... I don't want to cry in front of the Sunday School class. I cry about it all the time, but I'm alone or with Mike.... I haven't been to church since.... I just don't want to talk about it.... am I nuts?

 

[Sonya]

Henny,

I don't think you are crazy at all! You have had quite an ordeal to go through and it's ok to just *not want to talk about it*. I'm sure you might be able to find a way to testify about God's grace in this ordeal without having to go into the details of what has happened. You know God tells us to honor our mother and father and I don't think you should feel bad in finding someplace that your mother will be cared for and looked after....you know your own limitations and if God has placed a home in your path that is able to care for your mother, then count it as a blessing and know that you are honoring her by making sure she is well cared for and looked after. You are allowing those nurses and caregivers to be a blessing too, in caring for her.

Big hugs to you

 

[Buckguy20]

Hennies, You are not nuts. If you aren't ready to do it then don't do it now. I do know God wants you to share how he has helped you through your hard times. Tell your teacher you will do it when you are ready. If that is not tomorrow then another day.
I don't like to shae with groups either because I usually cry. Big men aren't supposed to cry but tell God that.
Your message might be just what someone else needs to hear.
Sorry, there I go being Barnabas again.
"Nay in all these things we are more than conquerors through Christ who loved us."

 

[HennyPennies2007]

OK... we are watching the NASCAR race and I have come to a conclusion...That plastic Burger King dude, Spongebob and Sir Mixalot do NOT go together... The plastic Burger King dude blows the end right off the Creepmeter to begin with...ugh... what Einstein put that ad together... can you say..."Fired"?

 

[Sonya]

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I hope you aren't still woozy.

Not as woozy as I was earlier...after going out to check on the birds I felt a little more awake, but still very "relaxed" for sure.

5th and 6th grade girls are so goofy, ya know....I took these two girls to the elementary school, where they were supposed to meet the one girl's brother...he wasn't there, so I ran them to the dollar store, where her mom works...they couldn't stay there, so I told her mom I'd take them to her grandparents, where apparently she was supposed to be to start with...where do the grandparents live??? Across the street from me!! So we came back home....sigh.

It's raining again!!

 

[poultryand bees]

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Henny - you are experiencing normal grief over the loss of your mother's independence, her failing mental health and the relationship with your mother that you used to enjoy.

The Bible tells us we are to respect our parents and I don't think that doing the best we can to find a place that will provide for their needs is in any way disrespectful. I also don't think God wants us to ruin our own health in order to take care of others, including our parents.

I cannot begin to imagine how difficult it would be to put a parent into a long term care facility, but I remember how difficult it was for me to acknowlege, more than 10 years ago, that I could no longer provide the level of care at home that my husband's uncle needed. The uncle's health had gradually declined during the first 15 years of our marriage, but like the frog in the hot water, I couldn't see that the time had come for me to step back and acknowlege how sleep deprived I was and how it was affecting me in a negative way. It wasn't until he was moved into the nursing home and seemed to actually like it, that I could look back and see what a physical and mental strain I had been under.

Everyone copes with grief in different ways. You have apparently chosen to deal with it yourself, in the privacy of your home, without the love and support of your church family. That is alright. But, I think you will find that your church family loves you dearly and will cry and grieve along with you, if you will just allow them to help you through this very difficult time in your life. You will likely also be surprised by how many of them have had to deal with similar circumstances and understand your pain.

 

[Sonya]

I totally agree with the creepiness of that BurgerKing guy. I was doing an online survey once about commercials and that guy was on one of them and I put in the survey that the big headed Burger King guy gave me the creeps and I couldn't stand him....said I think whoever came up with that was out of their mind.....

 

[Sonya]

You know we are only 12 behind michigan and they know it!! I read a post where they said we were HOT and that we must be talking alot about the rain and that's why we are moving up on em..LOL.

I'm being mean momma and telling the girls to get in bed...I know, it's Saturday, but I enjoy the peace and quiet when they bed down for the night.