Okies in the BYC The Original

[Buckguy20]

We played a Hollwood Squares game with our youth group. (Holy Word Squares) and we dressed up as different characters . One of our guys rented a burger King guy suit. He even creeped me out and I was Hagrid from Harry Potter.
His wife was Snow White and he kept making remarks to her and following her around. His own wife was creeped out by him.

 

[HennyPennies2007]

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Henny - you are experiencing normal grief over the loss of your mother's independence, her failing mental health and the relationship with your mother that you used to enjoy.

The Bible tells us we are to respect our parents and I don't think that doing the best we can to find a place that will provide for their needs is in any way disrespectful. I also don't think God wants us to ruin our own health in order to take care of others, including our parents.

I cannot begin to imagine how difficult it would be to put a parent into a long term care facility, but I remember how difficult it was for me to acknowlege, more than 10 years ago, that I could no longer provide the level of care at home that my husband's uncle needed. The uncle's health had gradually declined during the first 15 years of our marriage, but like the frog in the hot water, I couldn't see that the time had come for me to step back and acknowlege how sleep deprived I was and how it was affecting me in a negative way. It wasn't until he was moved into the nursing home and seemed to actually like it, that I could look back and see what a physical and mental strain I had been under.

Everyone copes with grief in different ways. You have apparently chosen to deal with it yourself, in the privacy of your home, without the love and support of your church family. That is alright. But, I think you will find that your church family loves you dearly and will cry and grieve along with you, if you will just allow them to help you through this very difficult time in your life. You will likely also be surprised by how many of them have had to deal with similar circumstances and understand your pain.

Thank you P&Bs...What you said really struck a chord....I do realize that I have been stretched to the limit for about 4 years...It is just so different... and I feel bad for feeling better... it's all such a jumbled up mess in my head...I have had her with us for eleven years and I guess it's normal too just feel odd....

 

[TJ's Na-Na]

Henny - I agree...when you feel comfortable....but you know,
it's something that all of us have faced, or will face, and may
very well help someone else to get through it, knowing that
"someone else' really does understand. We have all felt
totally alone at times in our lives. That's why it's soooo
important to keep our knees flexed and care and share.

Hey, Neecy, I saw some "Spicy Chicken Batter Mix" in a small box
at Reasor's today. Is that what you dipped some of the
mushrooms in? Gees, I 'bout foundered on the shrooms at
POOPS.........LOL I was afraid it might be too spicy for me, but
it wasn't at all.

Am...almost...at a break point in my "breaking this meat down"
project for today. Then will ice the rest of it down and go again
in the morning.

Be back later.

 

[poultryand bees]

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Monty - I bet you were a perfect Hagrid - just the thought makes me smile. Of course, Hagrid is one of my favorite Harry Potter characters, since he loves his unusual critters so much.

 

[Buckguy20]

Thanks Marybeth,
I could never get the accent right but they knew who I was so that was all that mattered. I really did look like him witht eh beard and wig and all. I had a big pet (stuffed) spider with me. I couldn't find a three headed dog though.

 

[Sonya]

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Got this from feathersite:

Pyncheons are true bantams, having no counterpart among the large fowl. They have a Mille Fleur color pattern, a small single comb, and a tassel (small backwards growing crest) extending from a bony protuberance on the skull. The breed is among the rarest of the bantams, although they have been around for a long time. Nathaniel Hawthorne wrote of them in 1850 and stressed their antiquity at that time.

These birds are good layers for bantams and also good broodies. Chicks are nearly a solid buff with some gray blotches.

 

[CityClucks]

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Aww HennyP - you're not nuts. This is something that is so close to your heart and it's painful for you to see your mom needing more help than you can give her on your own. Don't you think it would be good for you to get back into your 'usual groove'? Even though it's hard, your experiences and your testimony are a blessing to others - they can see that God is at work in you. And, I believe with all my heart that you have honored your mother all your life - and are continuing to do so.

 

[poultryand bees]

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It is also very normal to feel guilty for feeling better now that your mother is in an extended care facility that is meeting her needs. It will feel strange for quite some time not to have your mom at the house and you will think "I need to do xyz for mom" and then realize there is someone else who is doing the xyz for your mom. This may sound a little strange, but to some extent you may have "empty nest syndrome" since one of the people you are accustomed to shopping and cooking for and doing laundry for - is no longer at home to receive those gifts from you.

 

[poultryand bees]

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Monty - that is soooo funny!

 

[poultryand bees]

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Wonder if Teach would have known what they were right away. Sonya, thanks for looking that information up. They sound like a way cool looking bird - for a bantam