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[al6517]

Ok I gotta run been up since 5:00am and I have to get an early start on the job site today, Hope everybodys day is good.

AL

 

[Dandelion007]

to Faerie!

 

[Okla-doodle-doo]

Happy Birthday Faerie. Reckon theres any chance J will be getting you more chickens for your birthday! People never seem to think of the obvious gift for chicken people. We have got to be the easyest people to shop for!lol. Wow 30,I was there once,almost twice!LOL Have a great one!

 

[Plain Old Dee]

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Thanks so much. This site describes the step-grandkids to a "T". I knew there were sites out there, given my employment background, I've just lost touch with that part of my employment history and couldn't remember where to look.

I'm so sorry you are going through the same thing - it's so sad that there are so many "hidden victims" of substance abuse. When I see the difference between my affected step-grandkids and the unaffected blood-kin grandkids, I just want to cry for them. Their mother has a history of popping out babies and going off and leaving them. At least once in a while she does come see these - the others she hasn't seen in years. Sometimes I think it would be better for all concerned if she stopped seeing these three, too. I know that sounds horrible of me, but when I see the envy in their faces when my daughter's two go to their Daddy's so often I have to feel for them. Especially when their mom promises to come see them on a certain day, and then doesn't show up or even call - those kids are so devastated...

 

[Plain Old Dee]

Happy Birthday Faerie! I hope you have a good one, and J doesn't give you too much grief!

You are a step ahead with your daughter - I'm sure she'll turn out fine. We only just recently managed to convince the step-grandkids dad that really was something wrong with his kids, and not just a lack of supervision/discipline from their mother. He was very shocked and upset to learn of the extent of their problems. They are now all in counseling - actually, the whole blended family is in counciling - but both he and my daughter lack the parenting skills needed to cope with everything. I think sending my daughter the link to the website may help give her some direction...

 

[Buster52]

I gotta change one of my dogs' name.

We took Baby to the vet the other day with a strained muscle in her leg, and the vet prescribed some muscle relaxer for it. We currently have one great-nephew and two great nieces visiting for the holiday. Last night, DW, who was very busy, asked our great niece who is 12 to give one of the pills to Baby.

So she gave it to the baby.

Fortunately while frantically searching for the number for poison control, this very bright little two year old said she spit out the medicine because it was yucky. I told her I didn't blame her, I would spit it out, too.

 

[faerielady]

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It's sadly amazing the fact that there are a lot of people who believe that certain things won't affect development of babies... and then they don't realize why they are having so many issues (both behavioral and educational) when they are older. Just because the child isn't born with withdrawals doesn't mean that everything is "all clear". A good friend of mine got drunk within the 2nd trimester (she did not know she was pregnant... I knew her then, and NONE of us believed that she was pregnant until I took her to the ER because she fainted after standing up). It was literally the only time in that year that she'd even had a drink. He has issues now that could conceivably be traced to that one night. Very sad

I wouldn't know what to do if J didn't give me grief... he says if he didn't, I would think that he doesn't love me anymore

 

[Jacksonmom]

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here is a thread on a guinea chicken cross- it is possible! where are you located? maybe close enough i can talk to hubby about more guineas

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=263053

I've been following that thread. Very interesting! Their cross was a male chicken on a guinea hen.

I think I'm a bit far, down south in Antlers, OK.

Sorry y'all - I got SERIOUSLY distracted by the snow.

I've been trying to pay attention to the eggs - to catch a trend in which are always fertilized, and the Cuckoo Marans is ALWAYS fertilized. The Cochins are more hit and miss - like maybe every other egg. I think my Welsummers are starting to lay again - so I'll start checking them. I did read the thread about guin hens and I think it said there's more success in hatching the other way around - guinea hen and chicken rooster. But, it could be fun to try. Now, if I could just convince hubby that it's really okay to stop eating the eggs we're FINALLY getting. lol!!!

Oh, we're in Choctaw, btw.

 

[muesky]

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None of my grandkids got that memo either. DH and I took all five camping this summer. Learned real quick that was a bad idea. They all wanted to talk at once...nonstop...to anyone and everyone within sight. Oldest step-granddaughter(10-year-old) talks faster than a normal human being can hear! DH and I were talking to the couple camped next to us, and all of a sudden, oldest step-granddaughter was in the middle of us rattling on about a friend named Brittany that she met in school who had a new puppy but the puppy bit her (Brittney?) so they shot the puppy and everyone was very sad and then they got a chicken but the chicken pooped and they got rid of the chicken and got a rabbit but the rabbit died and everyone was sad and a horse was in the pasture across the road and the horse was pretty and they couldn't ride the horse because it wasn't theirs and that made them sad and then they had to go back to school and and and and and and...

It all came out in less than two seconds, and I missed most of it!!! We could only stand there with our mouths open like drowning fish. I took her aside and told her it was rude to interrupt adult conversations unless it was an emergency - she countered with her daddy told her if she had something to say she should just speak right up. Dear Daddy got told she could go camping with us again when she learns some manners. The other two step-grandkids aren't quite as talkative, but instead of talking fast like big sister, they talk LOUD to make up for it. We have a lot of work ahead of us teaching them how to behave. (Has anyone here had to deal with serious behavioral issues in children? These had no discipline at all until their dad married our daughter. To make matters even worse, turns out their mom was using bad stuff while she was pregnant with them...and it shows! I used to work in a substance abuse treatment center, and learned all about FAS and it's effects on children, but nothing was ever mentioned on how to raise the children that suffer from it...)

Just trying to get caught up on the board after being off for a whole 14 hours. I think it may take that long to get caught up. Anyway for you and all others out there who are having a difficult time with the children in their life's behavior my suggestion is two things first see if the school district in your area offers a "Love and Logic" course if not I do believe you can find the course offered on line. The second is learn about ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis), I am hoping to get my certification while finishing my doctorates in the subject. This used to be call "Behavior Modification" but people did not like that so the name was changed.
If anyone need more information feel free to PM me. My field is special education and I work with children who have behavioral challenges at an alternative school. Currently I am finishing up my masters (hopefully graduating in May) and start my doctorial program next fall or the spring of 2011.
Number one thing to remember is it is all about choices and consequences. Also remember, children have to be taught how to make good choices and the best way to teach them is to model the behavior you want to see in them.

 

[poultryand bees]

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thank heavens for a bright 2 year old who was unwilling to take medicine she didn't like.