As I said to Bantymum my daughter went through this last year. She was married to a very controlling man. It took awhile but she has slowly learned to love herself first. Since the divorse in February she has begun college and has found a wonderful man. She said only a few days ago that she could not believe she could be so happy. She smiles all the time now which is a blessing to me. She always looked so miserable before. It took time. time to gather her strength and courage to face whatever. She made it and so will you. My thoughts and prayers for you Micki