Online Dating - Who did it work for? FIRST DATE TONIGHT

[SpringChickens]

I met my DH on AOL chat in 1999 - we've been married for almost 9 years now. We actually chatted one night, met that same night for a 1st date and haven't been apart since. (Don't think I would recommend meeting after one evening of chatting, but it worked well for me, luckily!)

My sister actually met her current boyfriend on e-harmony - they're informally engaged and planning on getting married in a year or so.

Yes, it can be done!

 

[ChickensAreSweet]

I met my husband of almost 12 years on match.com.

 

[gritsar]

My DH and I met in a chat room back in 2003. I moved to Arkansas exactly one year later.

 

[chicmom]

You should get started! Put yourself out there! One thing I'd like to say is, be yourself in every way. Be real. Whether you look like a model, or you're a plain Jane, thin, fat, average, rich, poor, kids, no kids........or just right......

Remember, you are just right for somebody!

 

[DunCroft]

My husband and I met on matchmaker.com 11 years ago. We both did the free 2 week trial. Been like heaven ever since.

 

[A.T. Hagan]

I met the girl who I was to eventually marry online over fourteen years ago on a dial up bulletin board (anyone remember BBS's?). This was pre-Internet, but it was online. It wasn't a dating board, but more of a gamine one with a large discussion and chat area. We were debating what constitutes great literature. We still don't agree, but we've been married over thirteen years now and have two kids.

 

[crtrlovr]

~*Sweet Cheeks*~ :

I am so happy for all of you - keep them coming.

I went to a co-workers Christmas Party last year and she had a psychic do card readings (never did that before) and she told me I was going to be in a relationship within 6 months. Thing is - I have given up finding someone who I would be compatible with - one who would like all my criters as much as I do, or at least be accepting. Haven't been on a date in 3 yrs.

For the psychic's prediction to come true, I thought I at least should put myself out there SOMEWHERE.

While getting ready for work this morning, I thought 'too bad the feed store didn't have a singles want ads'. At least that way, I would have a better chance of meeting a country minded man.

What a good idea! Maybe you should run it by the feed store manager. Our local TSC has a bulletin board in the back of the store near the restrooms where people put up flyers, business cards, Wanted Ads, For sale Ads, Services, and pretty much anything they want to. Maybe you should write up a small paragraph about "searching for like minded people" and form a hobby/interests group, and see how it goes. You could get an email account dedicated strictly for that purpose, and of course never share any REAL personal information such as full name, address, home phone, DOB, etc. etc. etc. -- use WISDOM!!​

 

[EweSheep]

Even I am against online dating but all of you had contact with each other, and get to know each other, that is GREAT!

However I got a friend who is so hung up with one guy in Boston, MA which it is a very long distance relationship and they "dated" online only (never met each other at all) and short long distance phone calls to him but they never got to meet each other for four years. Last year I blew up on her and said to get REAL and quit "holding" her life for him (she is already 21 going 22 years old) and after all that time, he told her he will come and see her on said date, never did, something always came up. She told me he is really coming on Valentine's Day (as my earlier posts saying about them) OR Spring. Well, I asked her the day after Valentine's Day she said it was OK, he did call but she was so sad that he isn't coming to propose her. He told her he will come spring. Now yesterday, he told her it may be early Summer he will come and give her the ring and then go back to Boston for a little while and nothing said about jobs or anything. Jeez! FOUR years!!!!!! He has been jerking her around for so long, bringing up her expectations so high and her hopes to get married and have kids were dashed every time he called back that it was postponed. I've asked her if she really knows what he is like and she said I know, my gut's telling me he is the right man! Then she goes on to prattle how they are going to do this and that, where they will live on the farm, he makes alot of money (oh really, he is only non college educated guy, with a track record and plenty of tattoos and works 3rd shift at a fast food resturaunt! he is about four years older than her). It is good to have goals but her expectations is too unrealistic. Once in a while when they call each other on the phone, they will get into an arguement and she ends up apologizing to him for being a b*****. I asked her what she is afraid of and she should stick up for her moral values, not changing her mind for a guy and are you afraid to lose him???? She didn't give me an answer which it clearly said yes, she didn't want to lose him because he is the only guy that likes her.

We have taken her with us to events, when we go to the ball, she turned down every guy that asked her hand for a dance because" she is saving herself for her Chris to be faithful". After that, we pushed her away and let her figure out whats best for herself and keeping us from going mad hearing about no guys would like her.

So that is my beef about online dating. BAD for anyone that wants marriage or sex right off bat, putting up hopes and expectations so high and dreams gets to be unrealistic. I know it goes all lovey and dovey and blind but maturity will come into play to be cautious. I don't think any of you got jerked around like this friend's BF (she calls him her husband and he calls her his wife..ugh!).

So all is well with all of you, at least you took the time and think about who and where you would meet your partner. Love does happen when you least expected it to! I sure did! (met hubby at a Civil War reenactment...long story LOL!)

 

[crtrlovr]

My sister and her husband have been married for 10 years now. They'd met many years ago, went on a couple of dates, then went their separate ways. They were chatting on some online site 10 years ago, and decided they wanted to "meet". It wasn't until after they actually went on their "second first date" that they realized they had dated so long ago! This time, they decided either they were right or the time was right -- they started dating in late summer of 00, got married in Jan. 01, and have been happily married ever since.

 

[EweSheep]

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Yep BE REAL! Not a fantasy minded storyteller behind the computer screen...I hate those kind of folks that decided to be "another person" online and when they personally meet, it is not the same person or personality as online.