Parenting teens is HARD - rant! Update on pg.4

[Boyd]

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Way to go!!! I encourage my kids to do this. I don't take offense if they very politely ask why not. Usually after giving them my reason they are fine. I guess I am a little weird asking them to call me out when they don't understand how/why I ask them something, but if I didn't do it like that, they are doomed to go behind my back and try to re-create the same mistakes I've made... and some of those are painful!

The consequences of going behind my back are worse.

 

[texasgal]

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Well of COURSE you do .. don't you know??? ALL teenagers drink...

/sarcasm off

I applaud your choices ..

 

[saddina]

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Way to go!!! I encourage my kids to do this. I don't take offense if they very politely ask why not. Usually after giving them my reason they are fine. I guess I am a little weird asking them to call me out when they don't understand how/why I ask them something, but if I didn't do it like that, they are doomed to go behind my back and try to re-create the same mistakes I've made... and some of those are painful!

The consequences of going behind my back are worse.

I also teach my boys to question the whys of things they are told, and not to take things at face value. I expect I'll be less thrilled as they are beginning to realize that mom is also an athority, and can be questioned.....

 

[hikerchick]

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Well of COURSE you do .. don't you know??? ALL teenagers drink...

/sarcasm off

I applaud your choices ..

Right, and none of them lie. If they say they don't drink, then by golly, they don't drink.

/sarcasm off

 

[Ol'FashionHen]

My Ds is allowed to ask us why, lots of times he know why, and we will just give him the you know why look and he drops it.

texasgal wrote:

I guess my problem is with the attitude that if you let them do something once, they now have a right to do it WHENEVER they want..

I have let my Ds do things sometimes that I normally would not (ex: drop him off at movies with a new friend, normally we will talk to parents, will allow friend to our home, then decide if Ds can hang out with them) very rare ocassion. He then pulled the "well you let me that time" and my reply is " well just like cable, that was a limited time offer, wasn't that nice of me (insert my smart ellick face looking at him right here)".

, they will use that line, I don't let him get away with it.​

 

[Sillystunt]

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Well of COURSE you do .. don't you know??? ALL teenagers drink...

/sarcasm off

I applaud your choices ..

Right, and none of them lie. If they say they don't drink, then by golly, they don't drink.

/sarcasm off

 

[texasgal]

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Well of COURSE you do .. don't you know??? ALL teenagers drink...

/sarcasm off

I applaud your choices ..

Right, and none of them lie. If they say they don't drink, then by golly, they don't drink.

/sarcasm off

No, I'm sorry, apparently they ALL lie ... except YOURS ..

/sarcasm off

 

[HennysMom]

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Right, and none of them lie. If they say they don't drink, then by golly, they don't drink.

/sarcasm off

No, I'm sorry, apparently they ALL lie ... except YOURS ..

/sarcasm off

ladies......

*deb lights a camp fire, gathers marshmallows and starts to sing*

KUMBAYA MY LORD... KUMBAYA

 

[texasgal]

You're right .. sorry. It's all good.

 

[HennysMom]

fancy a s'more luv?