- Oct 13, 2010
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What do you do?
My mom (in her late 80s) has a friend that I do not enjoy (friend is probably 10 years older than me). She is nosy, only hears one word you say and then spins it in to wild stories, gossips those stories to the rest of moms circle of friends and who knows who else. She usually looks frazzled and homeless but actually has assets and is a hoarder. (she also has a rather disgusting hygiene habit that I will not mention here but I do not like to touch anything she touches) And she is in the same business as I am, it has gotten back to me that she has told some totally WRONG things and claimed I do the same thing or told her how to do something. I have had to explain to my bosses that should these tales get back to them, I am NOT the one starting them or making those claims. She is always the victim and always right-everyone is picking on her. I try to avoid interacting with her when ever possible. I don't need her drama in my life.
Today she stopped by to talk with Mom, I told mom that her friend was there and said hello, but continued the big garden project I was working on-pruning an old old climbing rose that has not been touched in a decade.
Mom is upset and her friend is mad because I did not spend more time talking to her and ignored her today. I have explained to mom several times in the past why I do not want to sit and "talk" (more like be interrogated) with this friend. The friend really wants to sit with me and ask about all aspects of my life and my kids lives. Something I will not do, I am more private than that and if I wanted to broadcast my life, I can do that on my own.
So, would you sit down and talk with some one like this? I wish I would have known she was going to stop by because I would have found a reason to be long gone. I know I am not good at hiding how I feel about some one, I don't lie or be fake friendly well, so I am "cold" because I just don't do that and I have always been shy and private.
Arrrggg!
My mom (in her late 80s) has a friend that I do not enjoy (friend is probably 10 years older than me). She is nosy, only hears one word you say and then spins it in to wild stories, gossips those stories to the rest of moms circle of friends and who knows who else. She usually looks frazzled and homeless but actually has assets and is a hoarder. (she also has a rather disgusting hygiene habit that I will not mention here but I do not like to touch anything she touches) And she is in the same business as I am, it has gotten back to me that she has told some totally WRONG things and claimed I do the same thing or told her how to do something. I have had to explain to my bosses that should these tales get back to them, I am NOT the one starting them or making those claims. She is always the victim and always right-everyone is picking on her. I try to avoid interacting with her when ever possible. I don't need her drama in my life.
Today she stopped by to talk with Mom, I told mom that her friend was there and said hello, but continued the big garden project I was working on-pruning an old old climbing rose that has not been touched in a decade.
Mom is upset and her friend is mad because I did not spend more time talking to her and ignored her today. I have explained to mom several times in the past why I do not want to sit and "talk" (more like be interrogated) with this friend. The friend really wants to sit with me and ask about all aspects of my life and my kids lives. Something I will not do, I am more private than that and if I wanted to broadcast my life, I can do that on my own.
So, would you sit down and talk with some one like this? I wish I would have known she was going to stop by because I would have found a reason to be long gone. I know I am not good at hiding how I feel about some one, I don't lie or be fake friendly well, so I am "cold" because I just don't do that and I have always been shy and private.
Arrrggg!