Parents who have full access to their kid's Facebook account?

[Kschwartz]

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Yep.. its not about trust. Is MY responsibility to monitor the minor children living in my house. Anything less is neglectful.
And if you have nothing to hide, why worry about it then?

I myself am not worrying about it? I am not upset with any of my parents rules. I have nothing to hide. I'm a good kid, I don't get in trouble, I hang around good people, and I get good grades. I am very thankful to know that my parents trust me. It is just interesting to hear all of these opinions and rules and how they differ so much from each other. I understand where you are coming from with it being a responsibility, but if you are going to limit something that much, why let them have it at all? Why can't something be discussed face to face between the child and his/her parents rather than the parent having to go behind their back to find something out?

 

[StrayMagnet]

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I agree 100% as well. with all above!

could not agree more with the BOLD section.. I do the same thing.. You slam it. you loose it. and it makes the sibling you share your room with very mad when they loose the door due to your actions lol

 

[Kschwartz]

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Obviously you have never lied to your parents. Kids lie. I know I did when I was growing up. That is one of the reasons why I would have access to my kids' accounts. If they don't like it, then they don't need to have them. Simple as that. Another reason is, I pay the bills, I buy the computer, I WILL have access. End. Of. Story.

I'm not saying I have never lied, we all have (Not only as kids.. just saying.), but I don't need to lie to them because I'm honest. I know when I have done something wrong and I will admit it. And if I do lie, the guilt gets me quick.

 

[magicpigeon]

My parents were very strickt with me and I'm not even sure if that was a good thing or a bad thing. I was sent to a private girls school from year 3-12 and kept inside the house practically 99% of the time. Everything that required staying out for more than a 4 hours without parental supervision had to be cleared a week in advance. I wasn't allowed as mobile phone until I was in year 9. My room door was to be kept open all of the time and my room had to be cleaned once a week - or face the wrath of my father. I will say now I have almost never disobeyed them but on the other hand am not close to them either. I see them as authoritian figures in my life which to obey but not particularly to love

So, what does this have to do with the topic? I don't think parents should have so much "control" over their childrens lives. Add them as a friend maybe, but don't control their accuont...

 

[Matthew3590]

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Yep.. its not about trust. Is MY responsibility to monitor the minor children living in my house. Anything less is neglectful.
And if you have nothing to hide, why worry about it then?

I'll be sure to tell the cops to raid your house whenever cause, well you know, "you have nothing to hide".

 

[redhen]

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Obviously you have never lied to your parents. Kids lie. I know I did when I was growing up. That is one of the reasons why I would have access to my kids' accounts. If they don't like it, then they don't need to have them. Simple as that. Another reason is, I pay the bills, I buy the computer, I WILL have access. End. Of. Story.

I'm not saying I have never lied, we all have (Not only as kids.. just saying.), but I don't need to lie to them because I'm honest. I know when I have done something wrong and I will admit it. And if I do lie, the guilt gets me quick.

You're a good kid! Stay on that path!!!!!!!!!

 

[Nimby Chickens]

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I'm curious about the door thing. What are you stopping by having the door open, exactly... I mean with teenagers having opposite-sex friends over, I understand. But all the time? Why? Just curious.

For me.. if you are in your room the door is to stay open. EVEN if it's sisters in there together. why? beacuse Kids get into stuff and by closing the door your hiding what your doing from me.
if you can't keep it open then You can't have the door.. my kids found out fast.. when they kept closing the door.. I went in with my tools and removed it till their father got home from work.

I do not know about her kids. but my kids the only reason they want it shut is beacuse they have gotten into something and are hiding what they know they should not be doing or have

I know when I was a kid, I liked privacy and quiet and I shut AND LOCKED my door. I wasn't doing anything horribly obscene. I read, played videogames, or played with my toys - all things I was allowed to do. I shut the door for a few reasons:

1. I had a little sister who would steal my toys and mess up my room. From the age of 7 or so I have been one of those OCD kids about MY stuff. Everything in my room had it's perfect place, it was clean, and I kept it that way. My sister would come in, pick up my toys and slobber all over them. It completely disgusted me. To this day I am still disgusted by drooling children. She did not play gently and broke my toys too. My parents allowed me to lock my door because they understood what kind of kid I was and did not want to stress me out.

2. Erin (my sister) was a loud baby, very colic-prone. I loved reading (I was a stinkin' genius, read way past my grade level - but a complete reetee in math and still am.) and you know you just can't read with a screaming baby one room over without the door closed.

3. I was raised around much older kids since my mom had me at 33. My mom always called me her old lady child. I did not act my age but I wanted to - I was very self-aware and I knew that playing with toys was a little kid thing. I played with my beloved toys for a long time, but I was embarrassed of doing so. I was SO humiliated when my mom saw me playing with my My Little Ponies! So I shut the door.

I'm sure my mom could not possibly have forseen having me as a child. I am about as weird as they get - can't imagine my page in "what to expect when you're expecting". I have surely done some dumb things in life but none of them happened because my parents let me shut my door.

The Facebook checking is understandable, the policing is not. Social media is a tool, use it to you and your kids' advantage. Limiting it completely does no one any favors. If you want a job that doesn't operate from under a rock, you will need to use it. Does anyone here know the actual percentages on 'stranger danger'? It's totally sensationalized. There was a whole episode about it on Penn and Teller's Bulls^&t! Their findings indicated that the seriously stifling overprotective parents do way more harm than good because of an extremely small chance that someone might kidnap their child. I do not know the numbers on internet stranger danger, but if they emulate real life they will be similar.

I understand the fear - but I would parent based on actual facts, not the sensationalized media version of 'facts'.

 

[redhen]

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Yep.. its not about trust. Is MY responsibility to monitor the minor children living in my house. Anything less is neglectful.
And if you have nothing to hide, why worry about it then?

I'll be sure to tell the cops to raid your house whenever cause, well you know, "you have nothing to hide".

Ahhh, Silly youngin'..

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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Yep.. its not about trust. Is MY responsibility to monitor the minor children living in my house. Anything less is neglectful.
And if you have nothing to hide, why worry about it then?

I'll be sure to tell the cops to raid your house whenever cause, well you know, "you have nothing to hide".

You are comparing a violation of the basic rights of an adult to the violation of imaginary "Rights" of a child. You as a child do not have a "Right" to the internet. It is a PRIVELEGE. I think children these days often forget the difference between the two.

 

[acid_chipmunk]

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I'll be sure to tell the cops to raid your house whenever cause, well you know, "you have nothing to hide".

You are comparing a violation of the basic rights of an adult to the violation of imaginary "Rights" of a child. You as a child do not have a "Right" to the internet. It is a PRIVELEGE. I think children these days often forget the difference between the two.

AGREED! And, most children these days think they are ENTITLED to anything they want. That mentality really irks me.