Parents who have full access to their kid's Facebook account?

[redhen]

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Yep, call me paranoid about my childs safety anyday. It means i'm doing my job as a parent. Thanks!

wow red do I tell my story now?... gee.. I would not wish it on anyone

Yeah, i hear ya. I hear ya..

 

[EmtheFishLady]

I have a two year old so this hasn't become an issue yet. However, I'm often told I'm paranoid about my daughter. I'll continue to be so. If, and I do mean IF she is allowed on a social networking site I WILL be checking it. Call me paranoid all you like, I love my daughter, and I will raise her as I see fit.



As it is, she only goes with certain family members. Never overnight, and I call and check on her every 45 minutes. They don't take her anywhere unless I approve it first. I know where she is at all times. I plan to continue this. Am I paranoid? Maybe. But I've never not been able to answer someone when they asked me where my baby was. I don't like to worry. It gives me a headache.


Just looking at my facebook page, have various friend's children who have friended me...their status updates often SHOCK me, and it's obvious their parent's aren't checking on their online activity. So I am all for a parent policing their children. That's what a parent is for. We're not supposed to be our children's friends. We're supposed to be their PARENT.

 

[StrayMagnet]

computers had no internet when I was a kid, we used them for learning.. If i wanted to play.. I had to go outside,, if i wanted to go to a friends house I picked up the corded phone and turn the dial to call them.. when push button phones came out. that was awsome. Now a days. everything is digital, and kids do not want to go outside... they dont call to ask a friend to play they text them.

what happend to outside being the only place kids want to be.. instead of on the computer or in front of the TV with a remote in their hands?

like i said. my kids think Daddy and mommy are so unfair.. They are only allowed to play Xbox if they have had all their home work done every day after school, and if they Behave and do as I ask the first time.. Then as a family we will play Kinect bowling or one of the kinect games.. No games that require u sit in the chair with the controler.. has to be a game your moving, while they love it.. they hate that I restrict it to only on weekends and 3 Frames of bowling only

My 13 yr old keeps asking me when I upgrade my phone "when you gonna give me your old phone." I told him "when u get a job" and if he gets one I will get one of them special phones that only call pre- programed numbers only. and they will have child locators on them.. as well as any tracking I can get.

dose this make my kids socialy repressed.. I don't think so.

but I do admit I love my cell with internet. and i go nuts if I leave it behind.. but again I"m Old.. and I already Rotted my brain. and I do not want my kids to pick u all my bad habbits.

Plz do not think us parents are holding you kid back.. we are doing what we do out of love, and concern for you.. I much rather shelter my kids from the dangers of the internet.. then have to be sitting at the county morge I.D my kid beacuse I did not Protect him and teach him the dangers of the internet or keep tabs on his activity and catch him before he did something before he thought it thru

 

[redhen]

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Ding Ding Ding!! And we have a winner!

 

[Nimby Chickens]

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I'm curious about the door thing. What are you stopping by having the door open, exactly... I mean with teenagers having opposite-sex friends over, I understand. But all the time? Why? Just curious.

 

[StrayMagnet]

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I'm curious about the door thing. What are you stopping by having the door open, exactly... I mean with teenagers having opposite-sex friends over, I understand. But all the time? Why? Just curious.

For me.. if you are in your room the door is to stay open. EVEN if it's sisters in there together. why? beacuse Kids get into stuff and by closing the door your hiding what your doing from me.
if you can't keep it open then You can't have the door.. my kids found out fast.. when they kept closing the door.. I went in with my tools and removed it till their father got home from work.

I do not know about her kids. but my kids the only reason they want it shut is beacuse they have gotten into something and are hiding what they know they should not be doing or have

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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Ding Ding Ding!! And we have a winner!

Awww, thanks Red. Nice to know someone agrees.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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I just saw this...Are you serious? You realize those teens wouldn't have been able to murder had they had the PROPER supervision? How many of those parents are quoted as saying they had no idea what their kids were up to? If they were monitoring their children, they would have known, and those incidents may have never happened.

 

[Peaches Lee]

I think it's a bit silly to check up on your kid like that (scouring Facebook), but I was raised in a bohemian style. At 16 I went to TX all by myself to work and my parents knew I would make the right decisions--so my view is a bit skewed I suppose. Just last night we had some people from the Netherlands stop in and visit. A grandmother, granddaughter and daughter. The daughter lives in the USA but her daughter lives in NL to go to school. So mother and daughter only see each other on yearly visits instead of day to day. The young girl is an A student and will attend the University early for her good grades, she also does not drink or smoke. Here in the US, this kind of relationship is unfathomable. So, I guess, it truly is different strokes for different folks.

 

[karlamaria]

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yep my feelings exactly, to the op, if you give kids the privacy you think they should have, then you do not know if there in trouble or not. Kids need parents to see that there safe. Period.