When we were talking to my husband's family(thank God we don't anymore) my mil always made me say the prayer. Then she would bad mouth how I prayed. I never knew people could be so poisonousWe bless ours, too. I was a guest at a relative's home once with some other relatives and that happened, what I described above. As the food was being placed on the table, one person started serving herself and had begun eating before the hostess sat, and then the family all took hands and asked a blessing. I felt so sorry for this person who had to gulp down what was in her mouth in order to say "Amen."