Poor little ears..... ::RANT::

[SarahFair]

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This problem actually just came up. Neither my husband nor I were told that it was such an issue to remind people about language till 2 days ago. For the past few years its been a reminder when the language does happen... considering we were trying to continue being with our family. We were just recently told that change would not be happening, and to get over it. So this is where we are now.
I have to say you come across quite negatively... is this striking a cord with you somewhere?

If they have said no just dont go over there the next few gatherings...
...and I hate to say it but keept the grandbabies away from grandma too for awhile...

Tell them exactly why too. If grandma cant see her grandbabies shell put a stop to it!

 

[redhen]

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This problem actually just came up. Neither my husband nor I were told that it was such an issue to remind people about language till 2 days ago. For the past few years its been a reminder when the language does happen... considering we were trying to continue being with our family. We were just recently told that change would not be happening, and to get over it. So this is where we are now.
I have to say you come across quite negatively... is this striking a cord with you somewhere?

LOL me??
No, i'm just trying to help you figure out how to deal with this problem.(so thats why my suggestion was to ask you why you are still exposing the kids to this if it bothers you so much... ) .. and i'm not one to baby adults...sorry.
You seem a bit.. uh... sensitive?? To put it nicely...
Good luck... I'm sorry that you have such a rift in your family over this. Its sad to me. We have only one family. My family is very very important to me...
but to each their own...

 

[zippitydooda]

I have raised my children & now am the grandma. If my son or DIL came to me complaining of bad language from one of my other children while in MY home, I would be the one to handle it. Have you mentioned your dilemma to your MIL/FIL? If so, what did they say? I am only guessing these gatherings are in their house.

If I had this going on, I would have a special comment for my husband that said I'm ready to leave, and then LEAVE. When everyone started asking why I would simply state that since they have the right to free speech, you also have the freedom of choice not to be around it or listen to it. Be sure to state that you are not judging THEM, but that you don't want your children exposed to that language at that point in their life.

Unfortunately, they are innocent for a short time and will be exposed eventually anyhow. Sad, I know. Like everyone else has commented, it will present a good teaching moment about how YOU & DADDY expect them to use better language.

Good luck.

 

[agnes_day]

i have to admit...i am horrible about cussing..when i am happy, sad, or overly excited..and i do it in front of my kids. i am trying to quit however.

i wouldnt be too hard on them though..its not the best thing in the world, but its really not the worst. if its that big of a deal, just have them come to your house..i just say look..can you not use those words around the baby? he has taken to repeating them when we are in public. or something along those lines. if you were to put it like that, i imagine it would go a lot further.

 

[Sammimom]

I wouldn't attend such family functions. If it was a slip of the tongue with an apology for using rude language, that's one thing. But to be told to get over it, well, that's unacceptable. My friend's son had a friend use a very rude phrase the other day, (so rude I won't begin to try and indicate what it was) and now she doesn't want to let her son play at their house. Yes, he might have heard it on TV or from an older relative, but then his parents might go around talking like that all the time too, or let visiting children watch inappropriate TV. My point is, kids do not know what is okay to say or not say, they'll try anything out, and people will judge them for it. It is just fine to shelter your children.

 

[twentynine]

Several years ago----

I walk in on a phone conversation my ex-son in law is having with an unknown person. "MF this, SOB that, GDMF the other thing, you are so MFing stupid", repeated over and over. I figured something not my business was going on so I just backed out the door. A few minutes later son in law joins me on the front porch, his conversation over. He begins to tell me how stupid his mother is. It takes me a few minutes to realise he was talking to his mother on the phone. Flabergasted is an understatement.

When I realised he was speeking to his mother, I held up my hand, and as calmly as I could, I told him that he should never ever think it would be apropriate to ever speek to me or my wife using that language. And further more if I was ever party to witnessing him speeking to his mother like that again, he would never see the stick comming that would knock his head off. This young man is a Flight navigator, the rank of Captain in the air force.

My dad is 84 years old, mom died last year in Sept, my dad and surely never my mom ever heard me use such language. I am also sure that my dad at 84, would still be up to removing the top of my skull if I decided to start using such language in his presence.

Has to do with respect, when you ain't got none, speeking like that don't seem wrong.

I work in an industrial plant, cuss words I know!