Older daugher is getting apartment on October 1st. D and I are sitting down talking logistics and planning a budget on her monthly bills. Now my foster daughter D is a good girl, loyal, hard working but not the sharpest tack sometimes. I worry folks will take advantage of her....
So here is the doozy.. She starts dating this guy.. Come to find out he's my nephew from a previous marriage
I hadn't seen the kid since he was 2 or 3. So no one is blood related..... This is weird I know....
So we are talking about what there is here to move.. And he pipes in that they need a truck to move stuff. Well buster, I have a 1 ton van, but no truck. Oh wait, your dad ought to have a truck or 4 right? He proceeds to call his dad and demand he help him out moving wise, doesn't care what his dad has going on (my former bil/uncle because age diff) and basically is as disrespectful as can be.
The look on my face makes my daughter D quiet and thoughtful. When he gets off the phone the idiot tried to talk to me. Told me that his dad was being a pain in the butt, but would help the move whether he had plans or not. I was livid
Wouldn't quit talking to me. Wouldn't leave me alone about it. Finally I told him what I thought. Nobody disrespects their parents like that. I don't appreciate it, and honestly, if a 3 year old spoke to me like that I would have slapped them. Why wouldn't the same apply to a 21 year old acting the same? Daughter is embarassed but honestly I don't care.. There is a huge back story here I won't get into but for me this is sort of the final straw with this kid. He's no longer family, the divorce was final 8 years ago.
Daughter packed him into car and is taking him home. I called her and apologized for getting upset, but if he talks to his parents like that, what will he say to her when I'm not around? How will he treat her? I absolutely won't put up with that. Little kid better realize that right now.
Am I doing the overboard parent thing or does this sound a smidgen justified (because I can't fill i whole story I know this is very vague)
So here is the doozy.. She starts dating this guy.. Come to find out he's my nephew from a previous marriage
I hadn't seen the kid since he was 2 or 3. So no one is blood related..... This is weird I know....
So we are talking about what there is here to move.. And he pipes in that they need a truck to move stuff. Well buster, I have a 1 ton van, but no truck. Oh wait, your dad ought to have a truck or 4 right? He proceeds to call his dad and demand he help him out moving wise, doesn't care what his dad has going on (my former bil/uncle because age diff) and basically is as disrespectful as can be.
The look on my face makes my daughter D quiet and thoughtful. When he gets off the phone the idiot tried to talk to me. Told me that his dad was being a pain in the butt, but would help the move whether he had plans or not. I was livid
Wouldn't quit talking to me. Wouldn't leave me alone about it. Finally I told him what I thought. Nobody disrespects their parents like that. I don't appreciate it, and honestly, if a 3 year old spoke to me like that I would have slapped them. Why wouldn't the same apply to a 21 year old acting the same? Daughter is embarassed but honestly I don't care.. There is a huge back story here I won't get into but for me this is sort of the final straw with this kid. He's no longer family, the divorce was final 8 years ago.
Daughter packed him into car and is taking him home. I called her and apologized for getting upset, but if he talks to his parents like that, what will he say to her when I'm not around? How will he treat her? I absolutely won't put up with that. Little kid better realize that right now.
Am I doing the overboard parent thing or does this sound a smidgen justified (because I can't fill i whole story I know this is very vague)