Prayers for my sister - need feedback on my email please?

[debilorrah]

First of all your family is in my prayers. It is REALLY hard raising a mentally ill child through puberty. My boss has a son who is in the high end of functioning Aspergers and he has had some extremely violent streaks. Broke my boss's arm once, threatened alot, broke alot of household items throwing them at his parents.

I would understand your sister not wanting to give up on her grandchild, however, sometimes it is best for even short term treatment. To get away from the situation, maybe change his meds as his hormones have changed. This is what helps my boss's child from time to time. He is 18 now and getting a bit better, but they still have struggles.

 

[b.hromada]

My thoughts and prayers will go out to your sister, and the family as well.

 

[BrattishTaz]

and

 

[turney31]

Hugs and prayers!

 

[ranchhand]

You've got it, Grits.

to the family.

 

[gritsar]

This is the email that I sent to my sister yesterday. I have removed the names for privacy. She hasn't replied. I hope she's not mad at me, but it needed saying. Did I step over the line?

I cried while reading your email. You are my sister first and foremost and I love you. Please don't take what I have to say the wrong way. I know you are getting a ton of advice from all over and I know some of it is not the same as what you have in your heart and mind to do. I don't want to add to your burden by giving you more "well-meaning" advice, but I have to tell you what is in my heart. I don't want to lose my sister to a violent death. I care about the boys, I truly do. I love them in the way you love kinfolk. I haven't had the chance to spend enough time with them to develop a deep love, true. However, we come back to the fact that you are my sister and in your situation, YOU ARE MY PRIORITY.
Keith has seen alot of violence in his 29 years in law enforcement; some of it from children. He and I are of like minds when we have talked about your care of the boys and the whole situation. Neither of us doubts your love for _____ and _____, but enough is enough!
______ needs to be in a long-term treatment facility. If he has to stay there until he is 18 or older, so be it. I know your kind heart and I know you could never live with it if ______ was to be the cause of another family losing their child. You've done all you could, I'm sorry, but when I looked in ______'s eyes I saw nothing but hatred there. I don't think the medication exists to deal with that. I think it's time to admit defeat with him. You don't have to stop loving him, you just have to let him go.
_____ I see differently. I still see hope there. I think things would improve so much for _____ if the chaos from ______ wasn't a daily part of your lives. _____ has his problems, sure, but I believe they could be worked through. I guess you have to ask yourself if you want to sacrifice both to save one.
If you want, and I would have to talk this over with Keith, I would be willing to take _____ on for at least part of the summer. You saw how well he responds to Keith; many children do. It might do him some good and I know it would do you good to have a nice long break.
It's true that during our time in Florida I only got a glimpse of what each day is like for you; but it was enough for me to worry about every day since we have returned home.
I don't pray in exactly the same way you do, but I DO pray for you each day.
Let me know what I can do to help and don't be afraid or ashamed to ask for that help.
Love, Kat

 

[WingingIt]

I have two different friends in two different states who have children that are currently committed in care facilities. It broke their heart to do it, but it had gotten to there being no other alternative. I have to tell you, though, it's been so good for all of them, the kids included. Having them there doesn't mean they'll stay there but it does mean you get new and different experts and ideas and avenues for treatment and the future and that's all so important.

I'm praying.

 

[sfw2]

Kat, your email looks great, to me. It might have been a difficult read for your sister, and it might take her a while to digest it all, but I'm sure you probably didn't say anything that she hasn't thought, herself.

 

[HorseFeatherz NV]

You are a good sis, Grits

for things to turn out well.

 

[True Grit]

So heartbreaking for everybody. I thought your email was kind and sensitive.