Oh Jennifer, I am so sorry you have to deal with this. The wreck and medical issues is bad enough, but to have to deal with such a betrayal from your spouse and friend is just awful! I am praying for you and your family. I am separated myself from my husband of 22 years for the same thing (except the other woman was a coworker of his). This was 10 years ago and we stayed together for the kids, but it was never the same. I don't regret taking him back because I think kids are better off with both parents (except in cases of abuse of course), but now I want to be free of him. I can't ever believe anything he says and I am choosing to change my life. I am just saying this to let you know that you can make it! Do what you have to do to get your health back and take care of your kids. That may mean taking him back, but it may mean being on your own...it will depend on your husband. Whatever happens, know that there are people who will pray for you. Seek moral support from your friends and fellow church members and family. You are strong and will get through this, but it will take time and work. God bless you honey, I wish I was closer to help you.