Let me start with this before I ask my question. 1. Do not bash. One bash and I will report report report. Bashing includes comments like "you only need a prenup if you don't think it'll last" or "don't marry him". You get the picture. 2. Constructive feedback ONLY. If you don't have any helpful advice to offer, please don't hit that submit button. Do any of you have experience with prenuptial agreements, or with marrying partners who have children from a previous marriage? ---------- Here's why I ask. My dad stopped by my house today when he knew my DF was gone. I love my dad's ambushes. He wants me to get a pre-nup and asked me all kinds of questions about DF's child support situation with his ex. I have a house, life insurance, car, and other assets. I bought my house before DF and I met, and will have had it for 6+ years prior to the wedding date. My understanding is that assets obtained before the marriage are not considered community property (WA is a community property state). I think that the house being exclusively mine excludes it from the marital assets and therefore protects it from his ex-wife. DF has 2 children from his 1st marriage. They are 10 & 17. The kids live 2,000 miles away. DF has a child support agreement in place. The monthly payment was based on the salary he was making at a big financial instution pre-recession. The payments are very high and he can't keep up with them since he left his job a year ago. He does send his ex as much money as he can, and getting caught up is priority #1 for our debt repayment plan. DF left his job over a year ago and hasn't been able to find another one. He was working 70-80 hrs/wk, couldn't keep up with the work load, and was so stressed out he was on BP meds. That was before the economy totally tanked and we had no idea at the time that he wouldn't even be able to get a job waiting tables. He quit right before his kids came to visit so that he could be with them. I like his ex-wife. We've met and we got along. She's been very flexible and has never once shown any animosity toward DF. I wish she did more to help DF have a better relationship with his kids, but I can't control that. I've been working to establish a relationship with the kids myself, and actually email his DD about weekly. ---------- I'm not a naive person. I'm in my mid-30s, well-educated, and even-headed. I'm not expecting marriage to be all rosy & yellow brick road from here on out. I know that a good marraige is based on hard work, negotiation, and understanding. I'd like to hear from people who may have had situations similar to mine (pre-marriage assets on 1 side, children on another) and how it worked out. Did you get a pre-nup? Do you wish you had? How have the stepchildren been through the process? Thanks for your insights, support, and experiences!